Reddit refugees-you gotta stop talking about your ex and move on.
It's just not healthy to linger too long in the past. I get that there needs to be some time to heal but really -move on people. SNAPZU needs you to stop trying to recreate the past and innovate something new. Love to hear new and creative ideas from new users ready to evolve.
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Oh gosh I agree. I don't mind people having come from Reddit (guilty), but an end to the insanely repetitive /t/lounge snaps would be a blessing. And I want Snapzu to be better, but I've already seen people make comments that consist entirely of "/t/nocontext." I mean, really?
I'm caught up on how to feel about downvoting those kinds of posts. I mean, it doesn't add to the discussion, and it's bringing in some of the old reddit-isms that in reality didn't offer much that was constructive to discussion. At the same time, I'm also not sure if that alone entirely elicits a downvote or not. Kinda want some of the more seasoned users to give some input on that, but I'll just wait and see what comes of it.
If it doesn't contribute to the discussion and is just a dumb pun or other mindless drivel then downvote it, that is what the damn button is for.
The downvote button here isn't meant to be used the same way as it is on reddit. The downvote button here is more for if the post is offensive or doesn't fit in with the site's values than it is for merely disagreeing, and its a key difference to how the site as a whole runs.
A key difference. I think in transferring from other sites people need to take some time to understand the new sites rules and ethos rather than assuming that certain functions are the Same and looking for equivalents. This is a different site with its own unique rules and setup -not a new version of another site.
I think people also need to realize that things will be setup differently, and instead of expecting them to change to meet their demands, they instead need to adapt to their new surroundings. Coming into someone else's home and telling them that you want them to let you wear shoes indoors even when its been the rule for years that you take them off at the door is just plain rude.
Great point.
Very well put! Honestly, I'm more than happy to mold to Snapzu's culture, rather than repeat/rehash something that never felt that welcoming to me in the first place. Comments like this make me realize I made a terrific decision!
Is there a refugee/re-orientation tribe for former Redditors? Can one be created?
I envision a place where Redditors can ask newbie questions and better acclimate to Snapzu culture.
I can probably make such a tribe if theres a demand for it.
I would think posts like "/t/nocontext" or pun trains would be considered to not "it in with the site's values," no?
They aren't explicitly stated in the rules to be outside the site's values like the hate tribes are, so it would be up to the community as a whole to decide that.
That's what it's for on Reddit too, but people don't use it that way.
Sometimes dumb puns are the best part of a discussion.
If it's not both interesting and fun, I don't see myself sticking around.
There needs to be a balance.
New mod of /t/nocontext here! Just read this, and have begun removing reference comments. I believe the previous mod thought it would help people find the sub and help people laugh a bit, but I absolutely understand where you're coming from. It's officially against the rules to reference comment as of today, i'm sorry that happened.
Well hey, we're not mad at you for existing or anything! It's just the attitude of "subreddits as hashtags," which adds little-to-nothing to the discussion and really just kind of bogs down the comments, encouraging "reddit-isms" that don't belong here.
Absolutely! I totally get that, I'm glad that it was addressed this early on, so that that way we can keep this site better than the old one! :)
That's why taking time to understand the environment is important rather than wanting to jump in and take over tribes just to be a mod. I'm sure all the reddit refugees will need to make adjustments as this site is not a reddit replacement but has its own culture and expectations.
Although with that said, I wasn't the mod when this happened. I began being a mod this morning, when the previous owner of the tribe resigned. I intend to take this slow for those very reasons. :)
I think if snapzu can grow, there will always be undesirable comments and content that are inherent to a large online community. It's just part of the territory. Of course, the catalyst for the majority of people weening (or cold-turkey) off reddit is the mismanagement, not the minutiae of user behavior.
The reddit-related content is topical; it makes sense that it is being talked about. It'll die down and hopefully we can grow this into something bigger and better.
Not so sure it'll die down on it's own if left to fester as the site grows. It's internet cancer and needs to be caught in it's earliest stages.
"Subreddits as hashtags" is so fucking annoying.
And please please stop making the negative tribes like FPH and CircleJerk. We don't need that toxicity here.
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The reason I and many others left Reddit was because of the increasing levels of censorship that were being implemented. So while I may not agree with the attitudes of the FPH group, I still support their rights to express their opinions would like to see that right respected on this site as well. If we're all going to start a new and help Snapzu grow then we need to learn to accept the bad that comes along with all of the good.
If you threw a party tomorrow and invited 100 people to your house where everyone can bring a +1 and 10 of those people were racist or threatening going around verbally abusing your other guests would you let this keep going, given that it's your house and all? Or would you want to take the initiative to protect your guests and the party by asking those 10 people to leave for perfectly acceptable reasons? We're not talking about protecting the fundamental freedom of speech here where the government cannot arrest you, hold you or imprison you for the things you say, we are talking about keeping the party going and assuring we do what we can as hosts to eliminate any abusive behaviour that may stem from people wanting to be abusive. Having said that... like a private party at someone's house, we too are a private run website that has a specific set of rules to govern our platform, and those rules need to be followed so that we can keep the party going. We all see the effects of that abusive behaviour on other social networks, we won't let it happen here, and we believe the community wont either.
Well said. I don't mind if the community is a little protected from transforming into a site that projectss hate and allows trolling. I joined SNAPZU not because we need to change it to be more reddit like but because of what it offers that is unique.
Very well said. I'm happy that Snapzu has this strong opinion on "free speech". It will lead to a much healthier website and community. If people want to be hateful and give their honest opinion in a offensive way, they've got the choice to go other places if it's not accepted here.
To further clarify. Opinions can be offensive, and we wouldn't be surprised if unpopular ones offended people on Snapzu at times, because after all nothing is more subjective than an opinion and how it is received. We however have problems with "abuse" and "hate speech", there is a clear difference between that type of content and behaviour.
I'm perfectly fine with that :)
It's pretty much the way "Free" speech works in France.
I'm in no way advocating that anyone be allowed to go around threatening or verbally abusing others throughout the site or to the entire "party" as you so put it. But that is where I think the whole party anology just doesn't fit. This is a private site or party, yes, and ultimately what is and is not allowed here is completely up to the hosts of said party. While I may not agree with some of the rules, I still respect that they are in place. However, this house party is not just occuring in one large convention center area. It has many rooms. I may not like what's occuring in one room down the hall, but if that's the case, i'll just stay out of there. I'll advise others to stay away too through downvotes of any room material that moves its way on up, as i'm sure many others will as well. In this way, things are self regulating. I never saw FPH material on the front page of reddit as it would have never recieved enough upvotes. Hell, I didn't even know it was a thing until after it was shutdown, which shows just how much of an effect its' existance had during its' heyday. What i'm getting at is that personally, even though I may not care for the ideas or opinions of those types of people, I don't see anything wrong with allowing them to create a place of their own to go and speak to other ignorant but like minded individuals.
That's because you've never been on /r/all. A lot of posts reached it, because the fph community was pretty big and that not a lot of people who despised the community would go there just to dislike their posts. The problem noticed with fph is that they would annoy a lot of redditors. There are several stories where they would take pics posted on Reddit and post them in /r/fapeoplehate and then link the user who posted the pic to the fph thread. If we're going with the party analogy, it's like having fph in one room, but an unlocked room. People can come and go and spill the hate, which is not what this community wants. Yes, by having these rules, Snapzu are closing their doors to a lot of people. Although, I think the creators of this site would rather have a site who runs just fine with a great community than generating a lot of money while having a somewhat toxic community.
I apologize then, as you're right, I don't often visit /r/all, just the main reddit.com page. You're analogy with the unlocked room makes alot of sense and I can see how that would be problematic and definatley something that this site would want to avoid. I suppose I just wish that the community could figure out some sort of way to allow all mindsets here while at the same time keeping some of the harsher areas quarantined. Also, and I say this with no sarcasm whatsoever, thank you for enlightening me on some of the FPH history. I'd rather be shown to be wrong on an issue and aquire correct information that to continue on misinformed.
Wow, it's not on Reddit that I ever had a civilized argument like that. Kudos to you for being able to change your perspective despite the pride.
This is not reddit and it is time to move on.
I totally understand that point. However, there are some things that can be done to allow these negative groups without hurting others. When I browse censor-ship free forums, whenever I saw some hatepost (which was allowed) it would be met with harsh criticism, and the person would be negative repped into oblivion. Whenever this person commented on anything, people noticed his terrible reputation and never replied to his comments. We can learn something from this. In reddit, these hate groups ran rampant without any punishment, because there is no punishment. If we employ an effective way of the users punishing other users for hateposts, I think we can have a hate-free AND censhorship-free snapzu.
I think the general idea of censorship on a social website such as this is misunderstood. Let me try and explain.
Let's go back to the house party scenario. Let's say as the host I sent out invites to everyone, and with with each invite I left a short note. The note would say that we have a special room in the house specifically set aside to host the sharing and ridiculing the photographs of overweight individuals so that those who want access can all laugh and hate them together. But that's not all, after we have gone through every photo, we then glue the most popular one onto a stick and parade it around the house party all proud of ourselves for being different and better. I'm not done yet... lets say one of those individuals is there, quietly chatting it up with a drink in their hand having a good time, hurting no one, and they see this. Now lets remember, of course this scenario wouldn't happen, because no one in their right mind would show up to a house party where the note says there is a special room set aside for the ridicule and abuse of other people.
Lets think about actual censorship vs removing abusive content and how completely different those two things are. It isn't our role as the host of the party to go around listening-in on conversations and then kicking people out for their legitimate opinions, be it politics or whatever other subject. But if people shack up in the bedroom and start a 10 person hate group to ridicule other people, we are going to put a stop to it. It's really that simple. It's a case by case basis because we're not about to send everyone a 200 page contract on how to behave at a party, it's impossible to foresee every situation, and frankly it isn't our business to try.
I used reddit for around three years and never one saw a fat people hate comment on my feed. Your analogy was going very well until the part about about gluing the photo to the stick and forcing it in everyone's face. The most I ever heard about fph was boogie talking about it on his YouTube channel, or the meta about it being banned.
Edit- someone mentioned r/all below but it's clear that a lot of people here don't get how reddit works. R/all was merely there to show you the highest rated content of the entire website. If you wanted the best party for you, you wouldn't go into r/all because it shows you what is going on in every room in the house... Including the kids room where for year olds are laughing at fart noises and the sex dungeon in the basement. You would use the FrontPage because it is the party you want to be at.
I've seen lots of fat-shaming on reddit, and I wasn't looking for it, not even browsing the /r/all. But it invaded large subs, like AskReddit, and sometimes even in smaller subs people complained aboit being ridiculed. So, no, it wasn't very well contained at all, large parts of the site were affected.
As soon as hate speech is allowed anywhere on a site, the same users that gather there will be browsing the rest of the site, posting and commenting, and the whole site's standards of behaviour and courtesy will be slipping. Why would we want it? There are so many forums on the internet; setting up your own forum takes minutes. Nobody stops haters of any kind from creating their own place, so why let them ruin a perfectly pleasant community?
I've seen fat shaming in that people promoting unhealthy lifestyle choices have been called out on it. People promoting obesity as a good thing should be called on it. I have also seen smoker shaming in that people saying smoking isn't really that bad have been called out on it. I've seen random comments like 'omg you are so fat' come out of nowhere and hate seem those comments downvoted to oblivion. I don't know why you think your user experience is more definitive than mine and think typing "so, no, it's not" is going to convince me otherwise.
Edit: Annnnnd I get downvoted for having a different opinion.
I do not think so. You were describing your experience, and I told you about mine, which is different from yours. Which is understandable, reddit is a big and diverse place.
And, for what it's worth, it wasn't me downvoting you.
Except the rules on snapzu explicitly state that hate and trolling tribes are not allowed. This community is not new, and their philosophy is completely different than reddits or voats, and the least all of us new people can do is respect that and adapt to it.
I respect it, I just don't agree with it. I'm not going out of my way to create any such tribe or get others to do so, but at the same time I believe that they should have the right to and that the rules should be changed to allow that. From what i've seen thus far, this site seems very well done and the community pretty pleasant. However, that doesn't mean I think it's perfect and if it's going to grow than with growth comes change. The direction this all takes remains to be seen, but personally I think this place would benefit in the long run if the rules we're discussing were altered.
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Coming into someone else's home and telling them that you want them to let you wear shoes indoors even when its been the rule for years that you take them off at the door is just plain rude.
I have a membership here, just as you do. So is this not my home now as well? I may not be head of the household, but I do reside here now, do I not? Therefore, should I not be allowed to express my opinion and say when I agree or disagree with rule or regulation that is in place so that I may then try to help shape the future of my new home? You see you can't say that all the former redditors are welcome here and then claim that we're in your house and need to show some respect. We are all members here, and thus should all be listened to and treated equally.
It is neither my nor your home. It is the admin's home, we are just house guests. We live by their rules or we get evicted. Its this sense of self-entitlement that led to so many of the problems at reddit, and we should do our best to avoid it taking root here.
I agree that self-entitlement was an issue on reddit, however I must disagree with you on this not being "our home" so to speak. As I said before, we certainly don't own or lead this "household", and thus don't get to make the rules that come along with it. However, as members of the community, we do "live" within the confines of this "home" and thus should have the right to express our opinions on what is and is not allowed here, and thus the directions in which the "heads of the household" take us. After all, that's why many of us are here today, because we didn't care for the direction that previous leaders were taking us.
This is not correct. Those are rules of etiquette, but on the What is Snapzu? page, it says this:
From the TOS:
Yup. Same as the rules on reddit. (Which brings up the question... why are so many former redditors here, then?)
Because some of us think the problem was not the rules but the lack of transparency, consistency and communication? As long as the admins make an effort to be fair, communicate clearly what they are doing and where do they want the community to go, I've no problems with it. As a bonus the snapzu community seems more positive than the reddit community so I intend to stay even if reddit admins get back on track.
I feel like most people who left Reddit (myself included), didn't leave solely because of censorship issues, but left because of the negativity that that site brought on. Even in smaller, nicer, niche subreddits there was a continuing circlejerk and all around shitty people. That doesn't exist here. Everyone is pretty civilized and will gladly share interesting content or even fun discussions. The overall atmosphere is much friendlier and more inclusive than Reddit was or ever will be.
It's not about accepting bad or good ones, it's more just about being a decent, civilized fucking person.
I agree, this site has a MUCH better feel to it than Reddit ever did for me. The dscussions are civil, the atmosphere is good, it's a great place. And I completely understand why with all of that being said, many people would be very reluctant to allow a FPH type of mentality to have a home here. I just personally hate the idea of any kind of speech being completely censored, regardless of how ignorant it may be, because from what i've seen, once censorship is allowed in even the smallest amounts, it will inevitably grow and expand and become a detriment to the community it was originally setup to protect.
I don't think this is censorship. This is a community defining itself as a hate-free zone. Those who wish to exercise their constitutional right to speak their mind can do so elsewhere.
What do you think "censorship" is?
Strictly speaking, censorship is government control of what can be said without government repercussion. The concept of freedom of speech doesn't strictly apply to private websites; your "right" to say anything doesn't extend to individual websites.
If a website administrator decides to limit what can or cannot be said on their website, this is entirely within their right and in no way is considered a limit on freedom of speech per se.
So, a newspaper can't "censor" a reporter? A network can't "censor" a TV show? Which word would you use? (According to the dictionaries I could find, the verb "censor" does not apply only to governments. It did originally, but the meaning has changed.)
I get what you're saying about the more general meaning of "censorship." I was mostly discussing it in the context of the concept of "freedom of speech," which is how it is usually applied in these discussions. Saying whatever you want on a website is by no means a protected "freedom." It's not censorship in the sense of limiting one's freedom of speech.
It's a classic dilemma: which is more important, your freedom of speech or the site owner's freedom to control their website? As a site owner, of course legally I can censor anything I want. Personally, I would have an ethical issue with censoring any content unless it was clearly illegal or spam.
I don't think this is a matter of conflicting freedoms. The law is clearly on the side of the owner doing whatever they damn please. What they can do—and what reddit did for many years—is state that as part of your service offering you will grant users the freedom to say what they want without repercussion.
But this is not a "freedom"... This is an owner, with full rights to what is said or not on their website, deciding they will be more tolerant of dissenting opinions. If they take this away (as reddit is now doing) this is within their full rights. They're breaking a consumer promise, not taking away a "freedom."
So really, there's no real ethics involved... Just a definition of your product, and whether you remain true to the promise you make your consumers.
I think we're going to have to agree to disagree on this one. "Remaining true to a promise" is totally an ethics issue for me.
I understand what you're saying. I'm saying there's no fundamental "right" to speaking freely in a corporate space. This space exists at the sole discretion of the business entity. The business entity can definitely do so out of a sense of morality, but it's not a fundamental right.
Being able to speak freely is one of the most fundamental of rights. Do you automatically lose all rights when you're in a corporate setting? Or just speech?
You definitely surrender your right to free speech in a corporate setting, yes. There's no legal penalty for Facebook, reddit, or Snapzu to delete what they consider offensive language. They have no legal requirement to justify it to any form of authority. You also lose a slew of other rights when you're in a corporate setting... For instance, when you're in a store you're on private property, and they can evict you (i.e. restrict your freedom of movement) however they damn please. Ditto with the right to bear arms in the U.S.
I'm not talking about what's legal, I'm talking about what's ethical.
As much as I respect corporations that wish to grant their users or consumers complete freedom to speak their mind, I don't think it's an ethical imperative for them to do so.
For instance, Facebook clearly believes that creating a "safe environment" for its users is more important in an absolute sense than freedom of speech. That's their decision and I don't see it as unethical per se. If you allow total freedom to speak one's mind, you run into, say, hate speech, which carries its own ethical repercussions.
That being said, saying "freedom of speech is something I believe in and i wish for my business to carry this value" is perfectly fine, even admirable. It's just not an ethical imperative.
You provide a good point. It will be interesting to see how this site tackles it once the community keeps growing.
Agreed. I'm actually really looking forward to seeing where this community goes.
I disagree.
While I agree that reddit "censorship" goes against their long-held values, I don't expect Snapzu to make such a stand. They've already stated that they're against "toxic" communities and will not hesitate to ban them... As long as they're consistent with that position, then that's fine by me.
You can have mostly just the good... You just have to filter out the "bad."
I agree... Snapzu can do whatever it wants, just should be consistent. These reddit refugee camps do not need to emulate Reddit. This is the whole reason I favored Snapzu over Voat.
Which is an easy statement to make, but harder to when it comes to actually making the decisions. Are religious communities "toxic" because they can annoy atheists? Are atheist communities "toxic" because they can annoy religious folks?
Regardless, I'm willing to hang out here for a while and see how things progress.
Well there's a pretty clear difference between a tribes devoted to religion or atheism that annoy each other (for obvious reasons) and tribes devoted to hating a specific subset of people. It's not unintentionally annoying others that makes a tribe or a user toxic, it's about the purpose of the tribe or the motivation of the user. The purpose of /r/FPH was to demonize and hate a subset of people, and the motivation of its users was the same.
Yeah, that's the main concern. How to define toxicity. We will have to draw the lines as time passes.
This is a privately owned site and they can make rules regarding what content is posted. I feel like this shouldn't be as large an issue as you're arguing for it to be. If the exclusion of certain groups isn't something you like, then snapzu might not be the community for you.
I know voat was created for the sole purpose of being a place where censorship has no place. That's great for that type of community. And there are likely thousands of individual forums with the sole purpose of discriminating against a certain group of people. Also within their right.
The admins of this site have expressed that hate speech isn't wanted. That is their right. It's on the individual to CHOOSE which community best serves their needs.
This is a heavy subject. I, personally, find FPH disgusting and awful. I don't want it to exist anywhere, to be honest. However, I think, given what has happened to Reddit, free speech needs to be protected. If people want to make a FPH tribe and other people want to join it, so be it. I certainly wont be subscribing to their content but censorship will lead to another mass-exodus to another site. Voat is already getting the majority of ex-Redditors, we don't need to give people more reason to skip over Snapzu.
As a caveat, there should be zero tolerance for witch-hunts and harassment. I hold the controversial opinion that Pao actually made the right move by banning FPH. Not because it was a morally detestable sub but because they were personally attacking people IRL. They were harassing people. This is not OK and will get the site in legal trouble if it allows this kind of behavior. Snapzu would be wise to learn from this whole debacle.
What's wrong with CircleJerk? It's just poking fun at the website's meta. It's not targetting a particular group of people
I wouldn't mind one week of general discussion and reflection on reddit's faults to learn from our past mistakes and not repeat it here.
But then let's move on and never speak of it again. Like Voldemort.
But they talked about Voldermort ALL THE TIME. They just called him He Who Must Not Be Named, like he was the stinky loser desperate for friends and would appear the moment you said his name and they were Mean Girls.
This analogy got weird fast.
I agree with that, and I've tried to help that along. A big opportunity with snapzu, I think, is to create different, unique communities instead of just copy-pasting what was popular on reddit to here.
Snapzu is already something different. Unfortunately, a lot of people coming from Reddit are bringing a Redditor attitude with them.
On Reddit, I can get in on the occasional stream of puns or joke answers, but here is different. It's not that environment, so I hope fellow ex-Redditors can respect that and act accordingly, or keep the negativity/trolling in Reddit/Voat.
I can definitely agree with that. It's really refreshing, to me, to find something different, and it's like starting new again, able to jettison anything to do with reddit and move on. Hopefully most reddit refugees will feel the same way.
I am from reddit, I was unsubscribed to most of the main subs I just couldn't get into those comment threads. I'm really just after good content that caters to my interests and maybe even have casual conversations about those interests. It's definitely a different environment i feel much more comfortable and less judged when I comment here :) hope it stays this way!
I think the only main I am subbed to is Science, because it's, well, science. Sometimes the nonsensical portions of Reddit threads can get overwhelming, so I'm glad Snapzu, thus far, seems to keep that in check.
I'm one the refugees but I also was on the same place as long time snapzu users are now when digg went full retarded and everyone moved to Reddit. There is a huge influx of people now that are still trying to figure out how snapzu works (me included) but after the first wave of people that move everything will go back to normal, specially because the people at /t/lounge have been restless explaining how everything works to everyone.
I agree with you, I'm here from Reddit, but I'm sure the excitement will die down within a few days, and in a couple months, unless there's another slip up at Reddit, it will be like nothing happened.
It was reddit's biggest slipup yet. Reddit might slowly die within the next few months. The problem is the community will either all go to voat, or all go to snapzu. I'm thinking everyone will move to voat, just because it's a pure clone of reddit.
Oh I don't think reddit will die within the next few months. Sure, a lot of people may leave and a lot of people will come here, or go to another site, and at the end of the day reddit may not look like it does today, but it is not going anywhere.
There are too many subreddits that are not impacted by the recent events. I didn't hear about anything until Friday night because I am never on the front page. As soon as I open reddit, I am in my own little world of small subreddits that I subscribe to.
Stacksity and Hubski have also been advertised a fair amount and fit the same role Reddit did, so I can see them being dark horse contenders.
Aether has also looked interesting as sort of a midway point between Reddit and the Chans, with the usable interface of the former and the anonymity of the latter.
That implies you can actually do anything on Voat besides stare at a Server Too Busy page. It's finally up, but they were down for 2 days during the blackout.
My thoughts exactly. But I'd already become pretty disillusioned. It seems like it's gotten really lowbrow; just a lot of memes, and insightful discussion is hard to find. And I like the new shiny!
I mean, it's only been like two days. XD You can't seriously expect everyone to start pretending like that site doesn't exist that quickly.
No I am not asking people to pretend anything-just wanting contributions of new and interesting content. Was noticing a high number of rather mundane mentions of jumping ship from reddit. We get that there is a migration-we noticed.
Ahh, okay, I see what you mean. XD Sorry then, took that the wrong way!
Yeah, especially when their expecting a user base to blow through here used to a different site for so long.
And yo will have to learn the correct use of the down vote. sorry but it's not simply to use because you don't agree or just don't like what you read. Cast off your old ways.
That's technically what it means in Reddit, and some of the community still honors that. But yeah, it's abused far too often.
Those old memories......
Memories is all we have now.
That's exactly what she would say. sigh
Yes she did! And you'll be ok without her.
Don't dwell on the past, but bringing the positive things from Reddit over is not a bad thing.
I agree. I have been waiting for the posts in /t/lounge to calm down about Reddit. In the meantime I've been exploring the site and enjoying how different the different atmosphere. It will stabilize in the next few days though.
Well done on your patience. Hoping the focus moves from where people have come from to what they can offer now they are here.
You're right that we have to move on from Reddit, but this is happening too quickly. All of us came from Reddit and it's a shame what Reddit's turning into.
Take it one day at a time my friend. The hurt will fade...
Yeah. This is why I stopped using Voat. Seemed like every other posts was about how crappy reddit was.
I don't feel like pushing things on people after 3 days of reddit's inital meltdown is quite fine. Honestly, just give it time. If it lingers after a month, then maybe this topic can be brought back up.
It is important that embrace the new community and not complain about the old one.
So I agree we shouldn't sit around bitching about Reddit, however I also think its important to realize early on what Reddit did that didn't work so we can make sure it docent happen in Snapzu's infancy. There were a lot of mistakes Reddit made that we need to be sure not to make here and it is important to discuss them to make sure they don't happen.
But we had something beautiful together and they just threw it all away!
Seriously though, I'm really like this place so far. I can't wait to see it grow.
Big hugs to you. You will be fine with time
Okay, I thought there was a hoard of posts hidden somewhere in this site of people whining about their shitty/crazy/bitchy/unreasonable exes in Reddit fashion.
But realizing that Reddit is the ex just made me laugh out loud.
And yeah, agreed. This site isn't going to be impressed with you whining about your old squeeze and treating this one like a shinier copy.
nope just a bunch of posts where people are trying to move through the hurt post reddit. You know deep down you gotta leave the relationship but getting out stings a little.
I still have a reddit account but I'm on here too. I like trying new things and I liked this site's layout.
Preach! Ain't nobody got time for remembering Reddit!
Redd-who? What. I don't even know who you're talking about coughbitchcough
That's the way. The healthy "I don't even remember you" attitude will get you far my friend!
I hope new users lurk more before writing comments on submission to get a feel for the tone Snapzu is trying to set.
People here seem to be more friendly, want more long-form discussion and want to keep the meme/puns to a minimum. Please, lurk more and get a feel for the tribe you're commenting on.
And I would add-check out how rules are observed. Then contribute lots.
Its hard. I still remember when we met, I had just broken up from a long term abusive relationship with Digg and she was there for me to support me and help me deal with my emotions. One thing led to another and we eventually got married and had kids. Things were looking good for us but over the years she put on a few pounds (which I was cool with) and slowly started abusing me the same way my old girlfriend Digg did.
I am heartbroken Reddit turned into this horrible cranky mistress who takes me for granted. I finally had the balls to escape and run away from the nightmare but it's tough. I still love her very much for what she used to be and meant to me. She did so much for me and I feel betrayed and sad now. I tried talking with her, reasoning with her, all she did was shadowban me. I'm so afraid of comment now after the horrible experiences I've had and I'm having a hard time accepting that this is not a phase and she won't change back to that sweet lovely girl I fell in love with.
So you know you were right to go. She is who she is and she ain't likely to change for anyone. Big hugs to help you through the tough times. If that doesn't work take to drinking- many a heartbreak has been nursed by a stiff drink and a Neil Diamond song!
Oh gosh. Yes, this is a problem. BUT, I have a suggestion on how to handle it, if you will:
The last thing we want to do is discourage people from posting comments and content. That being said, negative stimulus may not be the best method of addressing this issue. Perhaps we could make it a point to respond to lack-luster comments politely asking them to expound on their thoughts.
Example: A user replies to this thread with
A good reply might be:
This method may not be sure-fire but I think it would promote more discussion and offer a second chance to those who reply with bland comments.
I think the up vote system will take care of that. Short inane comments just won't get up voted.