Hmm, I don't know. I bought minecraft when it was in early early beta for a very cheap amount, and I have access to another game right now, but that one was free. I would say just be careful with early access games.
My spouse has BPD. She's on some light medications for that, so most of the time it's okay, but yeah, sometimes it's hard - mentally exhausting. I learn tricks along the way on how to help her in my own way. I also bought two books about that, which, when I get to finally read them, will hopefully give me better insight on what she's living inside her head.
I can't say that I regret. We really match on a personal level, and that's greater than what I deal with when she's in a down period.
Congrats on making it work. It also sounds like she's pretty high functioning. It takes an emotionally strong person to be able to handle someone with BPD, and if she's getting treatment for it it makes it a little easier. Good luck. :-)
When she's on a low BPD curve, she's more "über-depressed" than anything else, which is a bit contagious, but I try my best to find ways to cheer her up and keep her mind on other things. If she would be violent (physically or verbally) instead, that would be another story, and it would most likely not work (for me at least).
Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It's like BPD, but without the psychotic temper tantrums. Most people with BPD have both. Both lack the skills to empathize.
No it's not. Psychosis is not amongst the diagnostic criteria for either disorder. Your claim about most people with BPD having NPD is not based in fact. The lack of empathy you describe is not a hallmark of BPD and is not amongst the diagnostic criteria. If you are gonna throw the labels around -doesn't hurt to check some facts first, particularly given the stigma experience by those who have been diagnosed with these disorders and the tendency for the masses to take the pseudo psychology as fact.
Narcissists are not always borderline disordered (they lack psychotic traits), but Borderlines are always narcissistic, as each lacks capacity for empathy. The Male Borderline by Shari Schreiber
Maybe you prefer the term "adult temper tantrum" rather than psychotic event. If I was going to throw a label around, it would be fucking monster. Don't talk to me about BPD stigma unless you've lived with someone who had it. There's hundreds of thousands of people with BPD in the US who are refusing therapy and who deny their illness, while they continue to destroy the lives of their loved ones. It takes years of therapy to get them better and unless you know what you're doing and you're emotionally strong so you can set healthy boundaries and take care of yourself (because they're damn sure not going to take care of you) they're going to drag you into their pit of misery and beat you down physically, emotionally, and/or psychologically until you're a shadow of your former self.
As a sufferer of BPD, I always give people this advice. The hard part is that relationships with BPD sufferers often evolve quickly on an emotional level...being 110% sure of someones mental status before a date is an incredibly good move and a lot of people don't bother looking into things like that.
This. The same thing goes for me because I tend to have codependency issues, so it was very easy for me to go from 0 - head over heels in about a month, possibly less. The higher you are, the more painful the fall. Thank you for your insight.
Yeah, he is. I guess if there was a silver lining to my nightmare is that I've realized my weaknesses and my shortcomings, so I know what to do in order to protect my heart.
I truly hope he gets the therapy he needs. I went through 6 months of hell with him--he goes through it with every loved one in his life.
It's a shame that he hasn't, yet. It takes so long to even notice results and a lot of people give up early on. It took me 15 years for results. You must be an absolute angel to be able to handle someone with BPD for six months. I'm glad you've got some armor from it. It takes the hardest battles to learn the most important things about yourself, doesn't it?
Sophomore year of college I got really into smoking with my room mate and we somehow got it into our minds that it would be a good idea to cut out the middle man and start selling weed ourselves. It turns out that with the right connections it's really not hard to get weed shipped cross country and really easy to sell it to college kids. Unfortunately we got ahead of ourselves and my room mate ended up getting caught and expelled in what was without a doubt one of the worst days of my life. Luckily he's doing fine and enrolled in college back home (where pot is legal funnily enough), but it makes me sad every time I think about how much fun we used to have together.
I will never let my friends pick movies for me again. They almost always try to punk me by selecting weird horror movies.
I don't like that genre. AT. ALL.
I mean, the American version of The Ring left me with nightmares for a months. And I haven't watched a single unlabeled vhs-tape or dvd-disk, ever since. For months I'd check my face in CCTVs of security cameras, and wells just freaked me out.
My 'friends' all thought it was funny. So that's why I don't let them choose movies for me to watch, ever again.
Drinking booze. After a somewhat unhealthy relationship with alcohol since I started drinking I decided to quite once and for all last year, never looked back.
Oh and the £4 mega bus from manchester to london (out there fine, the return journey was hell on earth).
Here's a short one: Had to pull my shotgun out when the grandson's so called scumbag daddy tried to kidnap him out of my living room, haha, his eyes got dam large after I racked one in, never saw that SOB ever again. Man the cops (7 of them) were all over me like a cheap suit, you would of thought I shot somebody......WHEW!! Made the local Police Blotter in the newspaper the following week........"Grandfather to the rescue"!!
Nah, I think it just appeals to someone who wants a solid dose of caffeine without it being in a hot beverage. I work outside most of the day, so during the summer I drink iced coffee, not because I love iced coffee but because I don't want to get even hotter just to get my caffeine fix. So that's my reason, but I think other people might like cold brew just because they don't like hot beverages in general. My son is generally like that.
Oh man! I actually prefer Starbucks Cold Brew over their regular iced coffee. However, I do know some people who hate. Others prefer it. It's definitely divisive.
Honestly, dusting (the getting high kind). I wanted to try it because some of my other friends had tried it. No one really took it seriously, but we were all curious. Some of them had done it before and told me that it's just a really quick high. We were using whippets which are those little canisters of nitrous oxide in those whipped cream cans. I huffed it up real quick, then ended up having these really intense muscle spasms, I guess kind of like a seizure? I blacked out and woke up a few seconds later on the floor with my friends around me. Never again. I'm sure I did it wrong, or something but holy shit did that scare me.
Two sentences in before I figured out you weren't talking about housework. I, too, tried it once, but you know what? The dust just builds back up again... it's like it's drifting around in the air or something. Weird.
But, seriously, yeah, I'm glad you're OK. Don't do drugs, stay in school, etc.
Actual dusting really is atrocious. Kidding.. I like it. It's relaxing and I have a lot of black furniture so seeing dust sitting on that shit means it's cleaning time. Which ends up being every other day apparently.
I have a similar experience, but with Tylenol Cold. For some reason, sixteen year old me allowed myself to be convinced that taking a blister package worth of a 12 hour could treatment would be an amazing experience. I had the worst case of vertigo. I was lying on the ground terrified I was going to fall up into the trees. I crawled to my truck so I could strap myself into the seatbelt and stayed for half the day.
Damn. I've done whippits plenty of times and with plenty of people and I've never seen someone react badly. Also I'm pretty sure dusting means smoking PCP with your weed. Even if it means abusing those duster cans as an inhalant, that's totally different from whippits. Whippits are just nitrous oxide so they don't cause brain damage, unlike pretty much every other inhalant, most which are a hydrocarbon of some kind. As long as you don't hold them in so long that you become oxygen deprived they're pretty safe. Not that I'd recommend them, they're expensive and not that much fun anyway.
I was at a Thai Restaurant once and ordered the food to be extremely spicy thinking that it will just be regular spicy. Usually that's the case for me when I go to restaurants. I request it to be spicy but it usually isn't spicy enough for me. Anyways, the next 45 mins to an hour, I was sweating like crazy. I thought I could handle spicy food but after that day I think I found my limit.
I would probably do it again though, only if I want to feel that burn and not care about enjoying my food.
Whereabouts are you from? Asking because an interesting anecdote I've heard is that there's a difference between how the spiciness in Mexican & Thai food materialises, Mexican being more of a quick burn that calms down with Thai being more of a slow burner & Americans being more used to the Mexican variant are better able to handle that and usually feel that Thai food is hotter, while Brits are potentially more used to Thai spiciness and as such may find Mexican more challenging. This was coming from a British ex-pat to US, so was from their personal experience. But still, interesting difference potentially and maybe something you experienced when trying Thai food if you're more used to Mexican?
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I'm from the US but I'm mainly used to eating Indian Food (so I can handle Indian spiciness). I definitely agree where Thai is more of a slow burn. Indian spiciness is probably not as quick as Mexican spiciness but definitely quicker than Thai food.
I once was on a date and I smelled my BO and had a serious WTF panic attack so I ran to the bathroom to find SOMETHING to fix it. Then there it was. My arm pits hurt for hours after words. The worst burning horrible pain I'd experienced in a long time. There wasn't a second date.
We were ( alot of years ago) "borrowing" gas so we could cruise around all night and spend our money on weed and beer, buddy was doing all the siphoning (Good suckage?) Swallowed more than he thought and 2 hours later in the emergency room all messed up, I think some got into his lungs or something similar. He was in there for a few days!!
Once on a trip to New Zealand the group I was hanging out with decided to go on a "caving adventure" that was suggested by the Hostel. So on the appointed day a stoned-looking dude rolls up in a busted Jeep, loads the 4 of us in the back with his dog and takes us to his camp in the middle of nowhere. The camp is basically a shack with a couple of solar showers situated next to a narrow looking crack in the ground. He suited us up in multiple layers of slightly damp (hopefully from the wash) wool thermals, rubber boots and helmets. Then we descended into the dark. We spent the next 5 hours on a harrowing trek underground, requiring us to crawl for stretches of up to 200 m at a time through holes in the ground barely wider than our bodies. In many places water would pour onto your face as you made your way forward, just to add to the claustrophobia.
People panicked. One girl had a full blown panic attack and stopped moving, forcing those of use crawling behind her to try to talk her down wile the water poured on us. Dude who led the expedition was completely unhelpful. He kept saying "We can't turn back now - keep going or we'll be stuck down here." I thought I might die down there. Somehow we did manage to get through it and I have never been so happy as when we finally surfaced.
Later we heard that there have been several cave collapses in the area a few months after we had been there.
Smoke weed - I used to smoke a lot and then I took mushrooms once. Taking mushrooms showed me that there is more to life than smoking weed. When I smoked weed I was burning money and my mind was blank. On mushrooms my mind was the opposite - and they're free.
shrooms and acid off the table for me. Had a massive case of a paras 11 years ago and I can't go near the stuff now. As soon as I do and start feeling it my brain automatically relates it to the last time and I am screwed. I used to love mushies too :(
Hanging out with a "certain type" of friend of mine. 9 times out of 10 the day turns into a Youtube party where we're forced to watch the irritating youtubers she likes.
DXM. For those who aren't aware, it's cough medicine. You can take a bottle or 2 of robotussin and you trip. You also get very sick before your trip starts and it is not fun puking your guts out a few times.
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Pineapples on my pizza!
Aww, but it's so good!
Agreed, just doesn't fit. For me, the taste's fine but the texture just doesn't fit at all! :(
Hawaiian Pizaa you say?
Exactly!
whhhhhat? I love Pineapple on pizza!
I mean I like pineapples and I like pizza, just not both together :(
heathen.
but....but...I like bacon!
DW your'e not the only one. I just can't stand the taste of pineapple.
Yeah I'm going to ahve to disagree with you on that one (don't worry I won't down vote :)
Thanks, I'll infact go ahead and upvote you even if we don't agree!
Upvote for being polite by thanking him.
Early Access games...
Hmm, I don't know. I bought minecraft when it was in early early beta for a very cheap amount, and I have access to another game right now, but that one was free. I would say just be careful with early access games.
Sure... Now you tell me!
I don't know, early access f2p sounds pretty good.
Just make sure to read thorough reviews. I got KSP when it was very unfinished and it was awesome even then.
Depends on the game. I really like Viscera Cleanup Detail. It was worth the price I got it on for sale.
I have played the snot out of that game. So relaxing.
Worst part is I play it in a ridiculously messy room. If I spent a quarter of the time I cleaned in the game on my room it would be sparkling.
I don't get the Zen feeling from cleaning in real life though.
I will never again date a guy unless I'm 110% sure he doesn't have BPD and/or NPD.
Amen
My spouse has BPD. She's on some light medications for that, so most of the time it's okay, but yeah, sometimes it's hard - mentally exhausting. I learn tricks along the way on how to help her in my own way. I also bought two books about that, which, when I get to finally read them, will hopefully give me better insight on what she's living inside her head.
I can't say that I regret. We really match on a personal level, and that's greater than what I deal with when she's in a down period.
Congrats on making it work. It also sounds like she's pretty high functioning. It takes an emotionally strong person to be able to handle someone with BPD, and if she's getting treatment for it it makes it a little easier. Good luck. :-)
Thank you!
When she's on a low BPD curve, she's more "über-depressed" than anything else, which is a bit contagious, but I try my best to find ways to cheer her up and keep her mind on other things. If she would be violent (physically or verbally) instead, that would be another story, and it would most likely not work (for me at least).
I would go with the same, a relationship with a BPD sufferer is intolerable. What is NPD?
Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It's like BPD, but without the psychotic temper tantrums. Most people with BPD have both. Both lack the skills to empathize.
No it's not. Psychosis is not amongst the diagnostic criteria for either disorder. Your claim about most people with BPD having NPD is not based in fact. The lack of empathy you describe is not a hallmark of BPD and is not amongst the diagnostic criteria. If you are gonna throw the labels around -doesn't hurt to check some facts first, particularly given the stigma experience by those who have been diagnosed with these disorders and the tendency for the masses to take the pseudo psychology as fact.
Maybe you prefer the term "adult temper tantrum" rather than psychotic event. If I was going to throw a label around, it would be fucking monster. Don't talk to me about BPD stigma unless you've lived with someone who had it. There's hundreds of thousands of people with BPD in the US who are refusing therapy and who deny their illness, while they continue to destroy the lives of their loved ones. It takes years of therapy to get them better and unless you know what you're doing and you're emotionally strong so you can set healthy boundaries and take care of yourself (because they're damn sure not going to take care of you) they're going to drag you into their pit of misery and beat you down physically, emotionally, and/or psychologically until you're a shadow of your former self.
As a sufferer of BPD, I always give people this advice. The hard part is that relationships with BPD sufferers often evolve quickly on an emotional level...being 110% sure of someones mental status before a date is an incredibly good move and a lot of people don't bother looking into things like that.
This. The same thing goes for me because I tend to have codependency issues, so it was very easy for me to go from 0 - head over heels in about a month, possibly less. The higher you are, the more painful the fall. Thank you for your insight.
Very true. It's unfortunate that you had to deal with such a twisted situation, I hope that the guy is long gone.
Yeah, he is. I guess if there was a silver lining to my nightmare is that I've realized my weaknesses and my shortcomings, so I know what to do in order to protect my heart.
I truly hope he gets the therapy he needs. I went through 6 months of hell with him--he goes through it with every loved one in his life.
It's a shame that he hasn't, yet. It takes so long to even notice results and a lot of people give up early on. It took me 15 years for results. You must be an absolute angel to be able to handle someone with BPD for six months. I'm glad you've got some armor from it. It takes the hardest battles to learn the most important things about yourself, doesn't it?
Dealing pot.
Sophomore year of college I got really into smoking with my room mate and we somehow got it into our minds that it would be a good idea to cut out the middle man and start selling weed ourselves. It turns out that with the right connections it's really not hard to get weed shipped cross country and really easy to sell it to college kids. Unfortunately we got ahead of ourselves and my room mate ended up getting caught and expelled in what was without a doubt one of the worst days of my life. Luckily he's doing fine and enrolled in college back home (where pot is legal funnily enough), but it makes me sad every time I think about how much fun we used to have together.
Drinking Jameson straight from the bottle without regard as to how much I'm drinking. I apparently thought my tolerance was much higher than it was...
It's only when you go out for dinner with your family and fall asleep with your face in the salad that you realise
Been there... but it was soup. :(
Redoing the shingles on a roof and building an extension to cover the back deck... in the middle of a July heatwave... without pay.
Never. Again. Even if I was getting paid...nope nope nope nope. Fuck that.
I will never let my friends pick movies for me again. They almost always try to punk me by selecting weird horror movies.
I don't like that genre. AT. ALL.
I mean, the American version of The Ring left me with nightmares for a months. And I haven't watched a single unlabeled vhs-tape or dvd-disk, ever since. For months I'd check my face in CCTVs of security cameras, and wells just freaked me out.
My 'friends' all thought it was funny. So that's why I don't let them choose movies for me to watch, ever again.
Durian. The fruit that smells like a carcass
Drinking booze. After a somewhat unhealthy relationship with alcohol since I started drinking I decided to quite once and for all last year, never looked back.
Oh and the £4 mega bus from manchester to london (out there fine, the return journey was hell on earth).
Congratulations on giving up the booze :).
You should try the megabus from Aberdeen to Barcelona :(
thanks and nooooooo, that sounds horrific!
Cooperating with the cops and sexual relations with "crazy".
Story time!
Here's a short one: Had to pull my shotgun out when the grandson's so called scumbag daddy tried to kidnap him out of my living room, haha, his eyes got dam large after I racked one in, never saw that SOB ever again. Man the cops (7 of them) were all over me like a cheap suit, you would of thought I shot somebody......WHEW!! Made the local Police Blotter in the newspaper the following week........"Grandfather to the rescue"!!
Starbucks "Cold Brew" coffee, ugh.
Never again.
My gut still aches.
Is there anything special about their cold brew because it's not supposed to be any harder on your gut than hot brew.
Nah, I think it just appeals to someone who wants a solid dose of caffeine without it being in a hot beverage. I work outside most of the day, so during the summer I drink iced coffee, not because I love iced coffee but because I don't want to get even hotter just to get my caffeine fix. So that's my reason, but I think other people might like cold brew just because they don't like hot beverages in general. My son is generally like that.
Oh man! I actually prefer Starbucks Cold Brew over their regular iced coffee. However, I do know some people who hate. Others prefer it. It's definitely divisive.
It's like drinking cold runny mud.
Honestly, dusting (the getting high kind). I wanted to try it because some of my other friends had tried it. No one really took it seriously, but we were all curious. Some of them had done it before and told me that it's just a really quick high. We were using whippets which are those little canisters of nitrous oxide in those whipped cream cans. I huffed it up real quick, then ended up having these really intense muscle spasms, I guess kind of like a seizure? I blacked out and woke up a few seconds later on the floor with my friends around me. Never again. I'm sure I did it wrong, or something but holy shit did that scare me.
EDITED for clarity ;D
Two sentences in before I figured out you weren't talking about housework. I, too, tried it once, but you know what? The dust just builds back up again... it's like it's drifting around in the air or something. Weird.
But, seriously, yeah, I'm glad you're OK. Don't do drugs, stay in school, etc.
Actual dusting really is atrocious. Kidding.. I like it. It's relaxing and I have a lot of black furniture so seeing dust sitting on that shit means it's cleaning time. Which ends up being every other day apparently.
I have a similar experience, but with Tylenol Cold. For some reason, sixteen year old me allowed myself to be convinced that taking a blister package worth of a 12 hour could treatment would be an amazing experience. I had the worst case of vertigo. I was lying on the ground terrified I was going to fall up into the trees. I crawled to my truck so I could strap myself into the seatbelt and stayed for half the day.
Damn. I've done whippits plenty of times and with plenty of people and I've never seen someone react badly. Also I'm pretty sure dusting means smoking PCP with your weed. Even if it means abusing those duster cans as an inhalant, that's totally different from whippits. Whippits are just nitrous oxide so they don't cause brain damage, unlike pretty much every other inhalant, most which are a hydrocarbon of some kind. As long as you don't hold them in so long that you become oxygen deprived they're pretty safe. Not that I'd recommend them, they're expensive and not that much fun anyway.
Thai food. Worst pain I've ever been in.
I was at a Thai Restaurant once and ordered the food to be extremely spicy thinking that it will just be regular spicy. Usually that's the case for me when I go to restaurants. I request it to be spicy but it usually isn't spicy enough for me. Anyways, the next 45 mins to an hour, I was sweating like crazy. I thought I could handle spicy food but after that day I think I found my limit.
I would probably do it again though, only if I want to feel that burn and not care about enjoying my food.
Whereabouts are you from? Asking because an interesting anecdote I've heard is that there's a difference between how the spiciness in Mexican & Thai food materialises, Mexican being more of a quick burn that calms down with Thai being more of a slow burner & Americans being more used to the Mexican variant are better able to handle that and usually feel that Thai food is hotter, while Brits are potentially more used to Thai spiciness and as such may find Mexican more challenging. This was coming from a British ex-pat to US, so was from their personal experience. But still, interesting difference potentially and maybe something you experienced when trying Thai food if you're more used to Mexican?
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I'm from the US but I'm mainly used to eating Indian Food (so I can handle Indian spiciness). I definitely agree where Thai is more of a slow burn. Indian spiciness is probably not as quick as Mexican spiciness but definitely quicker than Thai food.
Eating a hungry jacks burger. The bun was stale!
That's Burger King for the non Aussies.
You do not understand how confused I was when at Melbourne airport and seeing "hungry jacks" and being like "Is that a rip off or...?"
I once was on a date and I smelled my BO and had a serious WTF panic attack so I ran to the bathroom to find SOMETHING to fix it. Then there it was. My arm pits hurt for hours after words. The worst burning horrible pain I'd experienced in a long time. There wasn't a second date.
Japanese Italian food. Putting tomato sauce on just any noodles does not make it Italian, and mayonnaise is not a suitable substitute for cheese.
That sounds disgusting.
It sounds like you visited a college dorm room, there.
Saizeriya actually, although it might as well had been college dorm food.
Maybe they were trying to go for the same popularity that Chinese-Mexican fusion has had.
Suck starting a gas siphon. Not worth getting a mouthful of gas. Blech!
We were ( alot of years ago) "borrowing" gas so we could cruise around all night and spend our money on weed and beer, buddy was doing all the siphoning (Good suckage?) Swallowed more than he thought and 2 hours later in the emergency room all messed up, I think some got into his lungs or something similar. He was in there for a few days!!
Once on a trip to New Zealand the group I was hanging out with decided to go on a "caving adventure" that was suggested by the Hostel. So on the appointed day a stoned-looking dude rolls up in a busted Jeep, loads the 4 of us in the back with his dog and takes us to his camp in the middle of nowhere. The camp is basically a shack with a couple of solar showers situated next to a narrow looking crack in the ground. He suited us up in multiple layers of slightly damp (hopefully from the wash) wool thermals, rubber boots and helmets. Then we descended into the dark. We spent the next 5 hours on a harrowing trek underground, requiring us to crawl for stretches of up to 200 m at a time through holes in the ground barely wider than our bodies. In many places water would pour onto your face as you made your way forward, just to add to the claustrophobia.
People panicked. One girl had a full blown panic attack and stopped moving, forcing those of use crawling behind her to try to talk her down wile the water poured on us. Dude who led the expedition was completely unhelpful. He kept saying "We can't turn back now - keep going or we'll be stuck down here." I thought I might die down there. Somehow we did manage to get through it and I have never been so happy as when we finally surfaced.
Later we heard that there have been several cave collapses in the area a few months after we had been there.
Caving. Never again.
I think your the winner. I've never been caving and don't plan to.
Smoke weed - I used to smoke a lot and then I took mushrooms once. Taking mushrooms showed me that there is more to life than smoking weed. When I smoked weed I was burning money and my mind was blank. On mushrooms my mind was the opposite - and they're free.
shrooms and acid off the table for me. Had a massive case of a paras 11 years ago and I can't go near the stuff now. As soon as I do and start feeling it my brain automatically relates it to the last time and I am screwed. I used to love mushies too :(
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Impressing girls in middle school. Never becoming the funny man again.
Depending on your age, you probably shouldn't be trying to impress middle school age girls anyway :P
Actually starting freshman year in 5 days, but the embarrassment and cringe is left to rot in another place. Here's to me starting fresh. (づ￣ ³￣)づ
Does this mean you're in the 9th grade or in college, though? I can't tell.
9th grade, and why not?
Because the term freshman applies to both highschool and college. Also which one you are changes the story immensely.
Tequilla.
Hanging out with a "certain type" of friend of mine. 9 times out of 10 the day turns into a Youtube party where we're forced to watch the irritating youtubers she likes.
DXM. For those who aren't aware, it's cough medicine. You can take a bottle or 2 of robotussin and you trip. You also get very sick before your trip starts and it is not fun puking your guts out a few times.
Your supposed to take a brand without acetaminophen or extract the DXM, but yeah it's a shitty drug and it is on my "never again" list as well.
my friend did the same thing and swore he would never do it again!
Getting drunk...
I only blacked out once in my life. Never. Again.