My spouse has BPD. She's on some light medications for that, so most of the time it's okay, but yeah, sometimes it's hard - mentally exhausting. I learn tricks along the way on how to help her in my own way. I also bought two books about that, which, when I get to finally read them, will hopefully give me better insight on what she's living inside her head.
I can't say that I regret. We really match on a personal level, and that's greater than what I deal with when she's in a down period.
Congrats on making it work. It also sounds like she's pretty high functioning. It takes an emotionally strong person to be able to handle someone with BPD, and if she's getting treatment for it it makes it a little easier. Good luck. :-)
When she's on a low BPD curve, she's more "über-depressed" than anything else, which is a bit contagious, but I try my best to find ways to cheer her up and keep her mind on other things. If she would be violent (physically or verbally) instead, that would be another story, and it would most likely not work (for me at least).
My spouse has BPD. She's on some light medications for that, so most of the time it's okay, but yeah, sometimes it's hard - mentally exhausting. I learn tricks along the way on how to help her in my own way. I also bought two books about that, which, when I get to finally read them, will hopefully give me better insight on what she's living inside her head.
I can't say that I regret. We really match on a personal level, and that's greater than what I deal with when she's in a down period.
Congrats on making it work. It also sounds like she's pretty high functioning. It takes an emotionally strong person to be able to handle someone with BPD, and if she's getting treatment for it it makes it a little easier. Good luck. :-)
Thank you!
When she's on a low BPD curve, she's more "über-depressed" than anything else, which is a bit contagious, but I try my best to find ways to cheer her up and keep her mind on other things. If she would be violent (physically or verbally) instead, that would be another story, and it would most likely not work (for me at least).