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What was a lie that ruined your life?

Can also be a lie that destroyed the life of somebody you know.

3 years ago by PotatoGenius with 13 comments

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  • ttubravesrock
    +9

    I guess I don't understand how a lie could destroy/ruin a life. Care to give an example?

    • spaceghoti
      +11

      One extreme example would be a sexual partner swearing they had been faithful and disease-free, and end up giving you AIDS.

      • ttubravesrock
        +8

        good example. I'm glad I haven't encountered something like this.

    • PotatoGenius
      +10

      My life was very nearly ruined by a kid in school who somehow convinced all my friends and family that we were in a relationship more than just being friends. We are both guys, living in a country where being a homosexual could land you in jail/get you deported. First my friends started to push me away, I was alone in a time that I needed the most help. I couldn't convince them that I was not gay, so they are no longer my friends. My family put pressure on me to stay away from this person (hard to do with him in all my classes) and I tried by first telling him to go away and that I didn't like him in any way more than being friends, plain and simple. That didn't work at all, so I tried to ignore everything he said to me. This led to my former friends telling me that he was wanting to kill himself and that it was my fault (oh great, this'll be fun). So (in the last year I was in that country) I asked him why he did all this, and he blamed everybody else, trying to convince me that he was my only genuine friend. I blocked him on all platforms except e-mail (I didn't give him my email address, so I thought I was in the clear) and I moved away, back to the United States.

      • ttubravesrock
        +5

        The 'I want to kill myself and it's all your fault' cry for help is a huge sign pointing towards mental issues that require counseling. Hopefully he has received counseling and has also moved on in his life.

        It sounds like you managed to avoid jail and escaped that situation BEFORE the lie ruined your life, so it would be accurate to say that the lie nearly ruined your life.

        I hope you still don't feel like your life is currently ruined though. Are things going better now?

        • PotatoGenius
          +2

          The 'I want to kill myself and it's all your fault' cry for help is a huge sign pointing towards mental issues that require counseling. Hopefully he has received counseling and has also moved on in his life.

          Sadly, I don't think he has gotten counseling for mental issues, and I'm unsure if his family realizes that there is a mental health problem going on.

          I hope you still don't feel like your life is currently ruined though. Are things going better now?

          Yeah, life is going way better without him.

  • spaceghoti
    +9

    I haven't encountered any lies that have destroyed my life. I've encountered lies that changed my life, but since my life has gone on I can't rightly say that it was destroyed.

  • jenjen1352
    +8

    When the bloke who took my virginity turned out to be married. First I knew of it was when he and his wife turned up at my mum's door, him holding their baby! My mum was surprisingly calm about the whole situation, but since then I have had ENORMOUS trust issues, especially with men.

    I was in my teens, but legal in the UK.

    • PotatoGenius
      +1

      Oh my gosh! I'm so sorry for such a horrible thing happening to you. That dick cheated on his wife AND took your virginity.

      I hope you have recovered from that and your trust is coming back. Stay on guard though, you never know if or when it may happen again.

      • jenjen1352
        +3

        Thank you for your kind words. Other people have broken my trust in other ways, but that one was something else. I'm quite cynical these days and feel better for it. :)

  • sgfc
    +7

    Didn't ruin my life but it was pretty horrible.

    Domestic abuse allegation. I was arrested, spent a night in jail, had to find a new place to live and spent $15K on a lawyer. When I got disclosure, the 3 cops notes were exactly the same except the one female cop said she did not believe anything had happened. They also did not take pictures of any injuries or take the alleged victim to the hospital for a medical report, both of which are required in my jurisdiction. That leads me to believe that none of them thought that evidence would help them out. The prosecutor was not open to any option except going to trial, but when we got there 15 months later, the new prosecutor and police did not believe that there was any prospect of conviction so they dropped the charges. Despite that, it still took a toll with money, stress, time and it cost me some "friends".

  • willyb321 (edited 3 years ago)
    +5

    Probably when I was told that santa claus wasn't real - I was 10 and ended up crying for basically 3 days straight. Didn't ruin my life, but I was annoyed and sad.
    edit: am now 23 btw

    • Appaloosa
      +4

      There is no Santa??!!!....Oh My God....