My life was very nearly ruined by a kid in school who somehow convinced all my friends and family that we were in a relationship more than just being friends. We are both guys, living in a country where being a homosexual could land you in jail/get you deported. First my friends started to push me away, I was alone in a time that I needed the most help. I couldn't convince them that I was not gay, so they are no longer my friends. My family put pressure on me to stay away from this person (hard to do with him in all my classes) and I tried by first telling him to go away and that I didn't like him in any way more than being friends, plain and simple. That didn't work at all, so I tried to ignore everything he said to me. This led to my former friends telling me that he was wanting to kill himself and that it was my fault (oh great, this'll be fun). So (in the last year I was in that country) I asked him why he did all this, and he blamed everybody else, trying to convince me that he was my only genuine friend. I blocked him on all platforms except e-mail (I didn't give him my email address, so I thought I was in the clear) and I moved away, back to the United States.
The 'I want to kill myself and it's all your fault' cry for help is a huge sign pointing towards mental issues that require counseling. Hopefully he has received counseling and has also moved on in his life.
It sounds like you managed to avoid jail and escaped that situation BEFORE the lie ruined your life, so it would be accurate to say that the lie nearly ruined your life.
I hope you still don't feel like your life is currently ruined though. Are things going better now?
The 'I want to kill myself and it's all your fault' cry for help is a huge sign pointing towards mental issues that require counseling. Hopefully he has received counseling and has also moved on in his life.
Sadly, I don't think he has gotten counseling for mental issues, and I'm unsure if his family realizes that there is a mental health problem going on.
I hope you still don't feel like your life is currently ruined though. Are things going better now?
I guess I don't understand how a lie could destroy/ruin a life. Care to give an example?
One extreme example would be a sexual partner swearing they had been faithful and disease-free, and end up giving you AIDS.
good example. I'm glad I haven't encountered something like this.
My life was very nearly ruined by a kid in school who somehow convinced all my friends and family that we were in a relationship more than just being friends. We are both guys, living in a country where being a homosexual could land you in jail/get you deported. First my friends started to push me away, I was alone in a time that I needed the most help. I couldn't convince them that I was not gay, so they are no longer my friends. My family put pressure on me to stay away from this person (hard to do with him in all my classes) and I tried by first telling him to go away and that I didn't like him in any way more than being friends, plain and simple. That didn't work at all, so I tried to ignore everything he said to me. This led to my former friends telling me that he was wanting to kill himself and that it was my fault (oh great, this'll be fun). So (in the last year I was in that country) I asked him why he did all this, and he blamed everybody else, trying to convince me that he was my only genuine friend. I blocked him on all platforms except e-mail (I didn't give him my email address, so I thought I was in the clear) and I moved away, back to the United States.
The 'I want to kill myself and it's all your fault' cry for help is a huge sign pointing towards mental issues that require counseling. Hopefully he has received counseling and has also moved on in his life.
It sounds like you managed to avoid jail and escaped that situation BEFORE the lie ruined your life, so it would be accurate to say that the lie nearly ruined your life.
I hope you still don't feel like your life is currently ruined though. Are things going better now?
Sadly, I don't think he has gotten counseling for mental issues, and I'm unsure if his family realizes that there is a mental health problem going on.
Yeah, life is going way better without him.