So what I'm hearing here is that under NO circumstances, a cheater should be given a pass. Even if their spouse maliciously withholds affection, or is maybe handicapped beyond being able to be affectionate. Even if they have a previously agreed upon 'open' relationship.
Not saying that I condone cheating in it's purest sense, but there are going to be victims, legitimate victims, because someone couldn't imagine the reasons. The picture is much bigger, and we can not possibly fathom all the possible reasons.
yes, you heard correctly. unless it has been previously agreed upon, which you pointed out. then that is not cheating. cheating is lying and hurting your partner in one of the rawest ways possible. people who cheat are some of the lowest scums of the earth. i put them on the same level as any other con-artist with only their selfish personal gain in mind, able to justify their shitty behavior with weak excuses. if you lie to your partner in such an intimate way, and risk literally destroying both your own and their lives (as well as potentially any children) for your own emotional thrill ride, you're a piece of shit. period.
I was trying to have a rational debate with you at two points in this thread, but reading this, I get now that you are way too emotional to actually have a discussion on the subject, so I'll just stop there and I hope that it will get better for you.
So what I'm hearing here is that under NO circumstances, a cheater should be given a pass. Even if their spouse maliciously withholds affection, or is maybe handicapped beyond being able to be affectionate. Even if they have a previously agreed upon 'open' relationship.
Not saying that I condone cheating in it's purest sense, but there are going to be victims, legitimate victims, because someone couldn't imagine the reasons. The picture is much bigger, and we can not possibly fathom all the possible reasons.
That's not cheating. Cheating is only breaking the terms of your relationship. If they both agree with it, it's fine.
yes, you heard correctly. unless it has been previously agreed upon, which you pointed out. then that is not cheating. cheating is lying and hurting your partner in one of the rawest ways possible. people who cheat are some of the lowest scums of the earth. i put them on the same level as any other con-artist with only their selfish personal gain in mind, able to justify their shitty behavior with weak excuses. if you lie to your partner in such an intimate way, and risk literally destroying both your own and their lives (as well as potentially any children) for your own emotional thrill ride, you're a piece of shit. period.
I was trying to have a rational debate with you at two points in this thread, but reading this, I get now that you are way too emotional to actually have a discussion on the subject, so I'll just stop there and I hope that it will get better for you.