I got the impression (from another news source) that the date sent her a long rant on why he wouldn't date her, which was fairly uncalled for. Still, the fact that people stop dating for whatever shallow reasons isn't exactly news.
The letter is out there; he never once actually calls her fat or says anything negative about her body. He only says how sorry he is for not being attracted to her while reassuring her that she is a lovely person. I'd hardly call it a rant. I copied some quotes from the letter into a comment above, if you'd like to read them : )
I saw them. It's still a weird thing to do, though. In dating, people have to constantly face their own lowered self worth (due to rejection) and I think personally the best thing is to not say anything except for "It doesn't work for me", elaborating on why it doesn't work can make you seem shallow even though it's central part of how you get attracted to other people. Sometimes it's better to shut up if you don't want other people's opinions of you lowered. I'm not saying it should be like this, but that is how it is, unfortunately.
I got the impression (from another news source) that the date sent her a long rant on why he wouldn't date her, which was fairly uncalled for. Still, the fact that people stop dating for whatever shallow reasons isn't exactly news.
The letter is out there; he never once actually calls her fat or says anything negative about her body. He only says how sorry he is for not being attracted to her while reassuring her that she is a lovely person. I'd hardly call it a rant. I copied some quotes from the letter into a comment above, if you'd like to read them : )
I saw them. It's still a weird thing to do, though. In dating, people have to constantly face their own lowered self worth (due to rejection) and I think personally the best thing is to not say anything except for "It doesn't work for me", elaborating on why it doesn't work can make you seem shallow even though it's central part of how you get attracted to other people. Sometimes it's better to shut up if you don't want other people's opinions of you lowered. I'm not saying it should be like this, but that is how it is, unfortunately.