"It's your life to live, but how can you be fulfilled if you've never X?" There are so many things we could put in there. How can I be fulfilled as a man if I've never butchered a steer or built a cabin with my own two hands? These are experiences that I have neither the aptitude nor interest in partaking in. Can I really call myself a man if I've never gone to war and killed my enemy for my country? Yes, yes I can.
As a father of two I can't speak directly to the experience of pregnancy, but my ex-wife suffered a great deal with our two children to the degree that she had trouble keeping water down. I know of other women who suffered less, some who suffered far more (one friend of mine never fully recovered and is today partially disabled from the effects on her body) and a few for whom pregnancy is physical bliss. It's not a one-size-fits-all circumstance, it's a choice each woman needs to make for herself. The crime is that not every woman is given that choice, and sometimes not even allowed to know that it is a choice she can make.
It's so true that it applies to a lot of a aspects of life. It's something that was really getting under my skin at one point. I posted this in that asksnapzu thread about stereotypes but I think it's applicable here too. I wrote a song about his very thing called "shades of normal". Unfortunately I don't have a recording to share but the lyrics for the chorus and bridge go...
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Isn't it great how we're all different
how boring if we were the same
as long as you do all the same things we do
stick to the rules of the game.
Because different is fine if you fit in the norm,
If you don't want to be the same
don't pick a different colour
Just pick a different shade.
"It's your life to live, but how can you be fulfilled if you've never X?" There are so many things we could put in there. How can I be fulfilled as a man if I've never butchered a steer or built a cabin with my own two hands? These are experiences that I have neither the aptitude nor interest in partaking in. Can I really call myself a man if I've never gone to war and killed my enemy for my country? Yes, yes I can.
As a father of two I can't speak directly to the experience of pregnancy, but my ex-wife suffered a great deal with our two children to the degree that she had trouble keeping water down. I know of other women who suffered less, some who suffered far more (one friend of mine never fully recovered and is today partially disabled from the effects on her body) and a few for whom pregnancy is physical bliss. It's not a one-size-fits-all circumstance, it's a choice each woman needs to make for herself. The crime is that not every woman is given that choice, and sometimes not even allowed to know that it is a choice she can make.
It's so true that it applies to a lot of a aspects of life. It's something that was really getting under my skin at one point. I posted this in that asksnapzu thread about stereotypes but I think it's applicable here too. I wrote a song about his very thing called "shades of normal". Unfortunately I don't have a recording to share but the lyrics for the chorus and bridge go...
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Isn't it great how we're all different
how boring if we were the same
as long as you do all the same things we do
stick to the rules of the game.
Because different is fine if you fit in the norm,
If you don't want to be the same
don't pick a different colour
Just pick a different shade.
Well put spaceghoti. I do enjoy your approach to life.