My father died eight years ago after a long fight with cancer. I was ultimately the one who had to decide what to do as my mother couldn't make the decision. I decided to let him go and end his suffering. He'd lost the ability to speak and couldn't control his body functions. I played his favorite music for him and held his hand as he died.
We didn't agree on a lot of things after I grew up. He was disappointed I didn't become an engineer as he felt I could have, and he didn't like that I'd become a liberal in social and political matters. But we respected and loved each other to the end. I have many fond memories of him that I can pass on to my children. It's the best way I have to honor his memory.
It was the most horrible decision I've ever had to make, but it was curiously the easiest. He was living in pain and humiliation and the only humane thing to do was let him go no matter how much we didn't want to do it.
It wasn't a single song but a genre. He taught me to appreciate classical music, so I ran through my playlist of Mozart, Bach, Beethoven, etc.
My father died eight years ago after a long fight with cancer. I was ultimately the one who had to decide what to do as my mother couldn't make the decision. I decided to let him go and end his suffering. He'd lost the ability to speak and couldn't control his body functions. I played his favorite music for him and held his hand as he died.
We didn't agree on a lot of things after I grew up. He was disappointed I didn't become an engineer as he felt I could have, and he didn't like that I'd become a liberal in social and political matters. But we respected and loved each other to the end. I have many fond memories of him that I can pass on to my children. It's the best way I have to honor his memory.
That really hurts. I can't imagine having to make that call. What song was it if you don't mind me asking?
It was the most horrible decision I've ever had to make, but it was curiously the easiest. He was living in pain and humiliation and the only humane thing to do was let him go no matter how much we didn't want to do it.
It wasn't a single song but a genre. He taught me to appreciate classical music, so I ran through my playlist of Mozart, Bach, Beethoven, etc.
I put on a nice playlist of Bach this evening. Actually took the time to sit and listen to it and it was very calming. Thanks again for sharing.