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  • spaceghoti
    +10

    Be the change you wish to see in the world.

    I've never understood the point of criticizing a community or forum where you're not actively participating. Okay, so voat doesn't appeal to me, that's fine. It doesn't have to. Snapzu doesn't appeal to others. That's also fine. But to go and sling mud at them because they don't appeal to your preferences? Not cool.

    A frequent problem I see in certain forums is that someone will occasionally speak up and complain that people aren't talking about the right things, or not talking about them the right way. The only response I can ever give to that is "so what?" In that case you have two choices: you can post what you think is appropriate and lead by example or you can find another forum that better meets your expectations. Condemning people for the crime of not sharing your beliefs or preferences is perhaps the most egregious example of narcissism humans display. If you're an active member of that community and you wish to express your opinion on what you'd like to see that's one thing, but if you're just lurking and you feel the need to criticize tone then you're going to get all the respect you've earned.

    • Goronmon
      +5

      But to go and sling mud at them because they don't appeal to your preferences?

      People are allowed to have personal opinions that differ from your own. Outside opinions can reflect on issues that insular groups habitually ignore.

      • spaceghoti
        +4

        You're entitled to your personal opinions, and I'm entitled to mine. The fact that I have an opinion doesn't invalidate yours, and it doesn't give me the moral probity to sling mud at it. There are plenty of communities, opinions and interests that aren't a good fit for me but you don't see me going around and arguing that people shouldn't participate. If you want to see change, get involved. Trash-talking just provokes more trash talk.

        • Goronmon
          +5

          Trash-talking just provokes more trash talk.

          Pointing out potential flaws in a community isn't "trash talk". Nor is it "mid slinging".

          • spaceghoti
            +5

            Complaining that you don't like a community is not constructive. Being constructive requires getting involved and participating.