My advice for relationships is generally to stop focusing on the expectation of romance and focus instead on the expectation of friendship. I have never objected to being "friend-zoned," which I always considered misogynistic bullshit in the first place. If I really care about someone then I'm going to make their needs and desires a priority rather than impose mine on them. If they feel the same way toward me then a more romantic relationship can flourish.
I'll be marrying my best friend in a few weeks, in part because she became my friend long before she became my lover.
Friendzone, it's such a stupid term anyway, as if men and women can't be friends, as if all there can be between men and women is some sort of sexual or romantic relationship, and nothing else. Yes, it can be painful when you fancy someone, and they don't fancy you back in the same way, but that doesn't mean you can't be friends. Just be clear about your intentions and continue to communicate and keep a level head.
People who know me, know that I almost always put my friends first, and myself second. That's not necessarily a good thing, mind you, but it makes me happy to see my friends happy. On the other hand, I find it difficult to make new friends. Probably because of the same thing. There only so much 'madjo' to share around. :) Oh well, one day I'll figure out this thing called life out.
It's difficult when one has a hard time trusting people, but I can say that at least I'm trying. :)
My advice for relationships is generally to stop focusing on the expectation of romance and focus instead on the expectation of friendship. I have never objected to being "friend-zoned," which I always considered misogynistic bullshit in the first place. If I really care about someone then I'm going to make their needs and desires a priority rather than impose mine on them. If they feel the same way toward me then a more romantic relationship can flourish.
I'll be marrying my best friend in a few weeks, in part because she became my friend long before she became my lover.
Friendzone, it's such a stupid term anyway, as if men and women can't be friends, as if all there can be between men and women is some sort of sexual or romantic relationship, and nothing else. Yes, it can be painful when you fancy someone, and they don't fancy you back in the same way, but that doesn't mean you can't be friends. Just be clear about your intentions and continue to communicate and keep a level head.
People who know me, know that I almost always put my friends first, and myself second. That's not necessarily a good thing, mind you, but it makes me happy to see my friends happy. On the other hand, I find it difficult to make new friends. Probably because of the same thing. There only so much 'madjo' to share around. :) Oh well, one day I'll figure out this thing called life out.