I always found the double standards in dating to be interesting. I realize it is a supply and demand issue but I always feel like the onus is always on a guy to put himself on the line from the beginning with asking a girl out, to the very end with coming up with an interesting date or being original with plans and keeping the dates looking spontaneous. It is exhausting. As I get older, it seems to be getting harder and I am unsure if that is because of my age or changing expectations of women. It may just be that I am just a poor candidate for dating. I was pursuing my education for so long, that I likely lost perspective.
It's a cultural issue, and it varies from culture to culture. I think you are describing the uniquely American culture of dating and courtship which is a strange beast to begin with. I recommend you apply a liberal dose of unemployment and travel time in multiple countries and cultures, and you probably won't feel so restricted by the cultural expectations of your home country. The rigors of courtship and dating become trivial in the light of the new perspectives and experience!
Male and female relations in general have several double standards, it feels like. But yes, it's so exhausting and a constant battle with the confidence.
Adoption, child custody, circumcision, divorce, military conscription, there's a whole lot of double standards when it comes to men and women. Men get the short end of the stick on far too many things.
Equality is equality. No matter what sex organs one happens to have been born with.
I always found the double standards in dating to be interesting. I realize it is a supply and demand issue but I always feel like the onus is always on a guy to put himself on the line from the beginning with asking a girl out, to the very end with coming up with an interesting date or being original with plans and keeping the dates looking spontaneous. It is exhausting. As I get older, it seems to be getting harder and I am unsure if that is because of my age or changing expectations of women. It may just be that I am just a poor candidate for dating. I was pursuing my education for so long, that I likely lost perspective.
It's a cultural issue, and it varies from culture to culture. I think you are describing the uniquely American culture of dating and courtship which is a strange beast to begin with. I recommend you apply a liberal dose of unemployment and travel time in multiple countries and cultures, and you probably won't feel so restricted by the cultural expectations of your home country. The rigors of courtship and dating become trivial in the light of the new perspectives and experience!
Male and female relations in general have several double standards, it feels like. But yes, it's so exhausting and a constant battle with the confidence.
Adoption, child custody, circumcision, divorce, military conscription, there's a whole lot of double standards when it comes to men and women. Men get the short end of the stick on far too many things.
Equality is equality. No matter what sex organs one happens to have been born with.