Text Post: What should every home have? posted by aj0690
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  • Appaloosa
    +3

    A mother and father.

    • pixelboot
      +13

      Ughhhh......whyyyyyy isn't the disagree button a thing yet?!

      Homes can have two mothers, two fathers, single parents, grandparents, or literally be any combination of any volume of caretakers at all. As long as there is love, comfort, support, and safety that is legitimately all that matters.

      • a7h13f
        +10

        Why does a home have to have parents in the first place? What about those of us in child-free relationships? I'm never going to be a father, and my partner is never going to be a mother, and that's the way we want it!

        • spaceghoti
          +5

          Why does a home have to have parents in the first place?

          Huh. When you think about it, no place I've lived as a bachelor has been a home.

          • a7h13f
            +6

            It would be an interesting meta discussion: "What makes a home?" I totally get that not everywhere a person lived would be considered their "home", but also I've had multiple places over the years that I would (at the time) have considered my home.

            So, what's the line between "Place that I live" and "Home"?

            • spaceghoti
              +7

              Apparently it requires both a Mommy and a Daddy or it's not a home.

              Seriously, though. I would describe a home is wherever you go to relax and get away from the rest of the world. You may live in a house, but if you're not comfortable there it's not really home to you.

            • Bastou
              +6

              It would be an interesting meta discussion

              Your which has been granted

            • Appaloosa
              +4
              @Bastou -

              I answered a question of what every home should have in what I thought. Not what anybody else thought. I should have said a gun, it might have been more neutral....lol!

            • Appaloosa
              +4
              @Bastou -

              Thank's for the sidebar!

        • pixelboot
          +3

          This is true as well! I just meant it in direct comparison to the context of the OP, which was parenthood. Obviously a home doesn't require children to be complete either, but blantant bigotry is horseshit.

          Sorry, now I'm getting mad thinking about this. I should probably take a walk or something instead of replying further in this thread.

          • GeniusIComeAnon
            +4

            You really should calm down a little bit.

          • click
            +1

            i figured they meant more as in parents. parents make for good home for children

            (they do - children in single parent homes perform way worse in a lot of areas in life, so having parents is good for growing up)

      • Appaloosa
        +2

        Have an itchy trigger finger pix?

        • pixelboot
          +3

          Apparently. Hahaha I would never downvote a post I personally disagreed with, but this is pretty homophobic. I think homophobia is not so much an "opinion" issue as it is a basic human rights and mutual respect issue. It just boils my blood so hard.

          • GeniusIComeAnon
            +6

            You might be reading a bit much into it. It's not necessarily homophobic. It could just be what came to mind for them when they think of "home." When I think of the word home, I picture a house out on the country side with a hill nearby and a tree. I picture a child, a mother, and a father. I literally never had what I picture when I think of the word home. I'm not homophobic just because I don't picture a gay couple as the parents.

            • pixelboot
              +5

              But the question wasn't "what do you picture when YOU think of home" is was "what should EVERY home have".

          • cailihphiliac
            +5

            Not just homophobic, it's also dismissive of single parent homes, childless homes, and any other "non-conventional living arrangement"

            • Qukatt
              +4

              also dismissive of people who are the mothers and fathers and dont live with their mothers and fathers.

              No way I'd live with my parents again (they cant even live with each other anymore).. let alone my husband's parents.

          • Appaloosa
            +2

            Really? Now It's homophobic. Wow. Any other label you want to put in there? Misogynist maybe. I'm sure you have a whole list of words that express your indignation at whatever you feel needs to be addressed.

    • Zeus (edited 8 years ago)
      +4

      A mother and father.

      Sometimes a family doesn't have to be a mom, a dad, two kids, a dog, and a house in the suburbs. The contemporary family can include a step-mother or step-father. Sometimes there are two moms, two dads.

      A family can be several children and a loving aunt and uncle. A family can also be a grandmother, her grand kids, and a helpful nanny.

      A family can be ten dads. That's it, just ten dads with no kids.

      A family can also be ten kids with not one dad between the lot of them.

      A family can be one kid, all by himself, alone in the woods.

      Or maybe a family does have a mom, a dad, and two kids -- but take a closer look at that dad. He's a woman.

      Let's say you've got 30 kids, a Hyundai Elantra, and three quarts of milk. That's a family.

      A fat guy, a watermellon, and a stack of magazines? Family.

      How about a collection of people who look very much like a family, but I promise are of no relation whatsoever? Guess what, I lied. That's a family. Sue me.

      Or maybe you got a family, but they get all jumbled up with some other family -- family.

      Picture if you will the entire population of Rhode Island... now picture their thanksgiving.

      Let's take another look at this family whose dad turned out to be a woman. There's still something fishy about them. Maybe it's that mom. Waitaminute... that's no woman, that's a magazine.

      A Jew, a Catholic, and a Muslim walk into a bar. Do I even have to say it?

      A train leaves Chicago going east at 20 miles per hour. Don't make me say it!

      Pull my finger. Family.

      Well, I think I made my point. There are lots of different families out there.

      And as for me? I got ten dads.