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You wouldn't be alone in that. I think that's a lot of us.
yeah. I came here to post that. Tbh I think it's because I don't want to scare my wife into knowing how often I'm not doing fine. It just fluctuates, and if I tell her I'm not doing OK she becomes all scared - whereas 'not OK' has become so normal for me that I don't even get bothered by it anymore.
It's unfortunate when people behave in such a way that they require you to lie to them just to keep the peace. If you don't want me to lie to you, don't punish me for telling you the truth.
Oh, this exactly. If I say exactly how I am, I'll end up being accused of trying to garner sympathy or that I'm "feeling sorry for myself." No, I just don't see any point in lying when I've come to embrace the fact that I'm not "fine." Yeesh. Now that I actually type that out, it sounds pretty horrible, doesn't it? :/
Or if you actually tell the truth and they harass you for telling them what they didn't want to hear. If you don't want the answer, don't ask the question. I don't think much of asking questions just to "be polite."
Does anyone ever actually feel "fine"? I never say that I feel fine unless someone's asked how I am.
"Fine, thanks." No, you're right, I don't generally feel fine. That's like commenting on a "fine" day. It all depends on what one means by the word. Rather non-specific. How are you today? Hm, not really sure how I feel but thanks for asking. No. Best just to say "fine" and continue on.