Everything is tainted since having kids, there's a bunch of movies I can't watch anymore, there's activities I can no longer stomach, There's paranoid behaviours I sometimes realise i might slip into.
Suddenly stairs and the edges of furniture and simple things like letting my kids out into the garden are scarey things because they are so clumsy and we live next to a violent neighbour who i'm terrified might just come raging one day and i can't make my kids scared as i am of everything and yet get them to understand that when i call them inside they have to come ASAP with no fuss or argument.
I want them to not run off down the street or around corners because i'm terrified of creeps and if i'm too far behind there's nothing I can do but i can't explain that accurately to them, i don't want them to be as scared as I get just walking down the street or going to the park.
The world hasn't "gotten worse", I've just become aware of it.
Exactly. Life's been enough of a struggle just to take care of myself and be happy. No way I'm taking on the responsibility of another person that can be permanently altered by what I do.
You'll get a lot of pressure about that choice but you stay strong! It's a valid choice, it's not selfish (no more than reasons to have them), it's not anyone else's business but you and your partner's in the end.
And if you ever changed your mind you're absolutely allowed to, don't let any of those bastards give you that smug git grin "oh ho i told you you would change your mind!" just punch them right in the face and stop associating with them.
everything.
Everything is tainted since having kids, there's a bunch of movies I can't watch anymore, there's activities I can no longer stomach, There's paranoid behaviours I sometimes realise i might slip into.
Suddenly stairs and the edges of furniture and simple things like letting my kids out into the garden are scarey things because they are so clumsy and we live next to a violent neighbour who i'm terrified might just come raging one day and i can't make my kids scared as i am of everything and yet get them to understand that when i call them inside they have to come ASAP with no fuss or argument.
I want them to not run off down the street or around corners because i'm terrified of creeps and if i'm too far behind there's nothing I can do but i can't explain that accurately to them, i don't want them to be as scared as I get just walking down the street or going to the park.
The world hasn't "gotten worse", I've just become aware of it.
That is one of the many reasons I don't want kids.
Exactly. Life's been enough of a struggle just to take care of myself and be happy. No way I'm taking on the responsibility of another person that can be permanently altered by what I do.
You'll get a lot of pressure about that choice but you stay strong! It's a valid choice, it's not selfish (no more than reasons to have them), it's not anyone else's business but you and your partner's in the end.
And if you ever changed your mind you're absolutely allowed to, don't let any of those bastards give you that smug git grin "oh ho i told you you would change your mind!" just punch them right in the face and stop associating with them.