Don't let yourself fall in love too quickly.

Grooveshark was awesome. May he rest in peace.

Yeah, he is. I guess if there was a silver lining to my nightmare is that I've realized my weaknesses and my shortcomings, so I know what to do in order to protect my heart.

I truly hope he gets the therapy he needs. I went through 6 months of hell with him--he goes through it with every loved one in his life.

This. The same thing goes for me because I tend to have codependency issues, so it was very easy for me to go from 0 - head over heels in about a month, possibly less. The higher you are, the more painful the fall. Thank you for your insight.

Congrats on making it work. It also sounds like she's pretty high functioning. It takes an emotionally strong person to be able to handle someone with BPD, and if she's getting treatment for it it makes it a little easier. Good luck. :-)

I will never again date a guy unless I'm 110% sure he doesn't have BPD and/or NPD.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It's like BPD, but without the psychotic temper tantrums. Most people with BPD have both. Both lack the skills to empathize.

I've studied clinical aromatherapy for several years and although some people (and a lot of companies) are in it for the money, it can work very well for many illnesses. It does work better in conjunction with modern medicine, but nothing reaches the brain faster than smell.

Also, more isn't always better. Like the study explained, the whiff of rosemary was enough. One drop is enough. 10-20 drops in a capsule taken three times a day via the orifice of your choice is going way overboard.

The downside to aromatherapy is that it's very expensive, especially if the oils are high quality and unadulterated. I still have yet to convince myself to drop almost $200 for a 5ml bottle of Rose essential oil.

I will never again date a guy unless I'm 110% sure he doesn't have BPD and/or NPD.

I set my outdoor grill on fire two weeks ago. I wanted to grill some burgers and thought bacon would be a nice addition. Between the high heat and the bacon grease, the grill caught on fire <20 mins into the process. I turned off the burners and thought that if I also closed the lid, the fire would die down because of lack of oxygen. It didn't. I ran inside, grabbed my oven gloves and turned off the gas. By that time there were flames coming out from the holes in the bottom part of the grill.

Thankfully, the fire died soon after that, leaving me with charred burgers and bacon. Mmmm.... next time I'll stick to what I do best -- cooking.