My dad died 15 years ago, so it is easier now to ignore Father's day. At first I was very bitter and jealous when I would hear my friends talk about the event and what they would be doing, they sensed it and tended to not talk about it too much if I was here. Now I have a more positive outlook for this event, and encourage friends to do something with their dad.
I do the same with my boyfriend, reminding him that he should get a card, or ring his dad more often. I'm very conscious of the fact that he will become my father in law, and very happy about this, so I try to get involved as much as I can.
I'll always miss my dad, he was a great father. Like you he died too soon, at 46. It is very uncanny, as I Iost both my father and grandfather like yourself. It was a very tragic moment for me, life defining really. My grandfather (my mom's dad) died from cancer on the Sunday evening, and my father died of a stroke the following morning. It took many years to be able to deal with it.
Thank you. I know that it is hard to deal with life when such strong paternal figures are missing. You are putting a lot of pressure on yourself for not being as competent as they were, but maybe on the inside they also thought they were struggling but did not want to tell people. You've also had to start becoming an adult without their support and advice. I'm sure with time you will get to understand that what you do is just as important, and that maybe it will become easier and you will be even better. I don't think your father would look down on you for you not being able to "follow in his footsteps", he would be proud of what you've become and would want you to be happy.
My dad died 15 years ago, so it is easier now to ignore Father's day. At first I was very bitter and jealous when I would hear my friends talk about the event and what they would be doing, they sensed it and tended to not talk about it too much if I was here. Now I have a more positive outlook for this event, and encourage friends to do something with their dad.
I do the same with my boyfriend, reminding him that he should get a card, or ring his dad more often. I'm very conscious of the fact that he will become my father in law, and very happy about this, so I try to get involved as much as I can.
I'll always miss my dad, he was a great father. Like you he died too soon, at 46. It is very uncanny, as I Iost both my father and grandfather like yourself. It was a very tragic moment for me, life defining really. My grandfather (my mom's dad) died from cancer on the Sunday evening, and my father died of a stroke the following morning. It took many years to be able to deal with it.
Thank you for sharing your struggle. Sorry to hear that you had to go through this as well.
Thank you. I know that it is hard to deal with life when such strong paternal figures are missing. You are putting a lot of pressure on yourself for not being as competent as they were, but maybe on the inside they also thought they were struggling but did not want to tell people. You've also had to start becoming an adult without their support and advice. I'm sure with time you will get to understand that what you do is just as important, and that maybe it will become easier and you will be even better. I don't think your father would look down on you for you not being able to "follow in his footsteps", he would be proud of what you've become and would want you to be happy.