how do I know if it's "bad enough"? I had quite a tough first half year but am doing better now (also thanks to being able to talk more about it with my SO, and deepening some friendships).
Basically I'm just not sure when/if I should. There's a lot of stigma attached, not just the feeling that I'd be judged (because probably no one would know, except the wife), but mostly because.... I don't know if I want to. I don't know if I want to feel that "out of control" that I need something like that - even if I might.
how do I know if it's "bad enough"? I had quite a tough first half year but am doing better now (also thanks to being able to talk more about it with my SO, and deepening some friendships).
Basically I'm just not sure when/if I should. There's a lot of stigma attached, not just the feeling that I'd be judged (because probably no one would know, except the wife), but mostly because.... I don't know if I want to. I don't know if I want to feel that "out of control" that I need something like that - even if I might.