My advice is basically to examine every explanation of the process you can find. Read written descriptions, look at diagrams, watch videos, etc. Eventually one of them will make all the pieces you've been collecting fall into place. Crocheting really isn't hard at all, and even if you don't do it quite right it will often still look good as long as you have the basic idea. Getting that basic idea is the hardest part, though. It isn't hard, but it looks hard until you understand what crocheting actually is.

Once you have the basic idea down, just crochet and crochet and crochet until you feel like you can attempt harder stuff. At the beginning I wouldn't even worry about patterns, you can just make simple stuff up as you go.

I say all of this because it took me ages to learn. I first tried learning with a book my grandma got me when I was seven. It made absolutely no sense to me and I couldn't do anything except make a chain, so I gave up. A few years later I tried again and still couldn't do it. Repeat once or twice more. Finally last winter I decided I was finally going to learn to crochet... and I did, in about an hour after looking up any explanation of the thing I could find in order to finally wrap my head around the process.

Good luck!