It certainly helps to have gone through a stage of heavy depression where you hated yourself and as a result everyone was better by default :P Although I'm pretty much recovered since then, I do think the memory of that view of the world plays a part in my lack of judgment. I mean I had some fairly fucked up thoughts in the worst of it, and if I could be in that place then how much better could I be than jthe person I'm supposedly about to judge.
I have also found that the reason I very rarely judge others is because my first reaction (concious or subconscious I don't know) seems to be to ask myself If I could build a logical path of scenarios (doesn't have to be the other person's experiences) that could/would lead me to being in their place as in doing the thing I disagree with. By accepting the path I have formed as plausible, I am essentially accepting that I too could have been brought to do whatever they did to cause this thought pattern. This then makes it very difficult for me to feel like I am better than them.
I have been told though that I have a high sense of empathy so I dont know if thats what is at play. I have definitely become pretty good at constructing those paths of scenarios and as a result I sometimes come across as "weak" because I don't get irritated, angery or the like when I am wronged. It certainly got me in trouble with my exSO because I never got angry hahaha She said she needed a man who would call her out on her shit. :P
Edit: Essentially I think my point boils down to, the more sense of I am "Me" and you are "Other" you have with the person involved then the more likely you are to judge them. The more you start to see likeness in them to you and start equating them to yourself, the less chance you are to judge them.
It certainly helps to have gone through a stage of heavy depression where you hated yourself and as a result everyone was better by default :P Although I'm pretty much recovered since then, I do think the memory of that view of the world plays a part in my lack of judgment. I mean I had some fairly fucked up thoughts in the worst of it, and if I could be in that place then how much better could I be than jthe person I'm supposedly about to judge.
I have also found that the reason I very rarely judge others is because my first reaction (concious or subconscious I don't know) seems to be to ask myself If I could build a logical path of scenarios (doesn't have to be the other person's experiences) that could/would lead me to being in their place as in doing the thing I disagree with. By accepting the path I have formed as plausible, I am essentially accepting that I too could have been brought to do whatever they did to cause this thought pattern. This then makes it very difficult for me to feel like I am better than them.
I have been told though that I have a high sense of empathy so I dont know if thats what is at play. I have definitely become pretty good at constructing those paths of scenarios and as a result I sometimes come across as "weak" because I don't get irritated, angery or the like when I am wronged. It certainly got me in trouble with my exSO because I never got angry hahaha She said she needed a man who would call her out on her shit. :P
Edit: Essentially I think my point boils down to, the more sense of I am "Me" and you are "Other" you have with the person involved then the more likely you are to judge them. The more you start to see likeness in them to you and start equating them to yourself, the less chance you are to judge them.