Not myself, but have had it happen to a couple friends of mine. Basically, in their situations anyway, they sent nude or partially-nude suggestive photos to their boyfriends during their relationship. There was consent between two adults, and the understanding that the photos would be deleted. Well, the guys never deleted them and just lied and said they did. When the relationship turned sour they put the photos out for the public to see. This is where is got different for different people; one of my friends had her photos submitted to a "meet local singles" porn site, where it was used in several banner ads, another friend they sent it to all of her friends and family that they could (she ended up getting the police involved), and another had her photos posted to facebook and tagged (which were taken down within 24 hours by facebook admins, but the damage had been done).
I don't think it's right to blame the victims at all in this situation. They were manipulated and lied to by someone that they trusted. The blame falls on the person who did this to them, not them for "letting it happen by taking the photos in the first place".
Thanks for response. That would would really suck to see yourself pop up on a porn banner ad. Seems like it would be hard to get the banner ads wiped from all porn sites. The blackmailing by sending to the persons family I have actually heard of before - a guy (who is a piece of shit) threatened to send nude pics to his girlfriend's dad if she didn't get back together with him, she didn't so he sent the pics to the dad and it got ugly. Posting the pics on facebook just seems stupid because it is just social suicide for both people. I agree with you though, nude pics are one of those things that should be off limit regardless of how bad the breakup is. That stuff if provided in confidentiality, people are going to have to start signing non-disclosure agreements when they break up!
Not myself, but have had it happen to a couple friends of mine. Basically, in their situations anyway, they sent nude or partially-nude suggestive photos to their boyfriends during their relationship. There was consent between two adults, and the understanding that the photos would be deleted. Well, the guys never deleted them and just lied and said they did. When the relationship turned sour they put the photos out for the public to see. This is where is got different for different people; one of my friends had her photos submitted to a "meet local singles" porn site, where it was used in several banner ads, another friend they sent it to all of her friends and family that they could (she ended up getting the police involved), and another had her photos posted to facebook and tagged (which were taken down within 24 hours by facebook admins, but the damage had been done).
I don't think it's right to blame the victims at all in this situation. They were manipulated and lied to by someone that they trusted. The blame falls on the person who did this to them, not them for "letting it happen by taking the photos in the first place".
Thanks for response. That would would really suck to see yourself pop up on a porn banner ad. Seems like it would be hard to get the banner ads wiped from all porn sites. The blackmailing by sending to the persons family I have actually heard of before - a guy (who is a piece of shit) threatened to send nude pics to his girlfriend's dad if she didn't get back together with him, she didn't so he sent the pics to the dad and it got ugly. Posting the pics on facebook just seems stupid because it is just social suicide for both people. I agree with you though, nude pics are one of those things that should be off limit regardless of how bad the breakup is. That stuff if provided in confidentiality, people are going to have to start signing non-disclosure agreements when they break up!