What do I have to show for all the time I put into getting 100% on GTA3, GTA:VC, and GTA:SA?
Hopefully the enjoyment achieved through having a goal and achieving it brings.
How much work did I blow off doing that, and how much further along could my career be?
I'm hoping you're in a career you like, in which case it's at worst a comparison on which thing you'd more enjoy spending your time on, and at the time it seems the goals in game were more important than the goals you had at work. Neither are invalid goals to strive for and as long as you enjoyed your choice at the time it was probably the right one.
If, on the other hand you're only in it for the money (speaking career here), I suppose the only benchmark would be how much more time advancing it at a earlier stage would have brought to activities you enjoy now as opposed to going for the more direct enjoyment you received by focusing on other goals than your career at the time. If your career at this time leaves enough time to enjoy your family and hobbies, it would seem you've made good choices.
What does it mean when my wife tell me I'm more aggressive and easier to anger during the periods when I'm playing?
This might be me misremembering something I read, but I believe the point was that the competitive nature of some games (you didn't specify if this was during all gaming) might temporarily increase aggression while also acting as an outlet for it.
Possibly tangentially related, but it may also have to do with the whole "flow" thing. If I don't misremember the book with the same name, one aspect of flow was potentially a somewhat negative reaction to it getting interrupted. Possibly also a reason why people get road rage, as I believe driving was quite a common way of getting into the zone. But this is a more speculative statement on my part, can't remember reading any hard facts on the matter merely statements by others.
We try to approach it the way we approach everything: with moderation.
I think this is the key in life, not letting any one aspect consume you. There have been times in my life where video games have taken a significant amount of my time, but I don't regret those moments because they too were a part of the experience we call life and I did enjoy those times as they went along.
You bring up good points regarding enjoyment and achievement. Sometimes we make the choices we do because we think they'll bring us enjoyment. I think what I'm getting at is that satisfaction with one's life is not always achieved by doing those things that bring you the most enjoyment.
I'm hoping you're in a career you like, in which case it's at worst a comparison on which thing you'd more enjoy spending your time on, and at the time it seems the goals in game were more important than the goals you had at work. Neither are invalid goals to strive for and as long as you enjoyed your choice at the time it was probably the right one.
The funny thing about turning your passion into your career is that you may end up hating your job. If your career doesn't go where you want it to, and you can look back at specific choices you made to play video games instead of working, what at the time seemed like the right choice may not seem like the right choice after all. OTOH, it's possible that working instead of playing video games would have lead to burn-out.
Possibly tangentially related, but it may also have to do with the whole "flow" thing. If I don't misremember the book with the same name, one aspect of flow was potentially a somewhat negative reaction to it getting interrupted. Possibly also a reason why people get road rage, as I believe driving was quite a common way of getting into the zone.
This makes a lot of sense. I'm definitely not in a pleasant mood when my flow is interrupted, but I try very hard not to expose the person interrupting me to this.
You bring up good points regarding enjoyment and achievement. Sometimes we make the choices we do because we think they'll bring us enjoyment. I think what I'm getting at is that satisfaction with one's life is not always achieved by doing those things that bring you the most enjoyment.
True, this is something that's very hard to analyse in the moment & sometimes you have to go against your immediate feeling. As an example, my brother was recently renovating and occasionally asked for help. As I'm not one for manual labor, my first instinct is to deny the help, but I always accepted after a short internal conflict and didn't regret it once. Sure, the task at hand may not have been something I enjoy, but the satisfaction of being able to help someone close to me as well as seeing the progress made certainly helped make it maybe not a enjoyable memory but still a good one.
The funny thing about turning your passion into your career is that you may end up hating your job. If your career doesn't go where you want it to, and you can look back at specific choices you made to play video games instead of working, what at the time seemed like the right choice may not seem like the right choice after all. OTOH, it's possible that working instead of playing video games would have lead to burn-out.
Yeah, this is a difficult problem made more difficult because one can't predict the outcome. Makes me feel like the right approach to seeking a career is to find something you like, but maybe not love. Though turning a passion into a career does come more naturally. Still, if one of the top five regrets of the dying is working too hard, I find it hard to justify a too great investment in one's career. Especially how one's relationship to the passion would seem to inevitably change due to the nature of it also being a means of income. Unless one is lucky enough to earn sufficient income to live comfortably to one's own standards by only making it work when one feels like it.
This makes a lot of sense. I'm definitely not in a pleasant mood when my flow is interrupted, but I try very hard not to expose the person interrupting me to this.
Yeah, it feels like a accurate hypothesis. But it's certainly something to be aware of & gives one the opportunity to recognise it and as you said, not channel that frustration on others.
Hopefully the enjoyment achieved through having a goal and achieving it brings.
I'm hoping you're in a career you like, in which case it's at worst a comparison on which thing you'd more enjoy spending your time on, and at the time it seems the goals in game were more important than the goals you had at work. Neither are invalid goals to strive for and as long as you enjoyed your choice at the time it was probably the right one.
If, on the other hand you're only in it for the money (speaking career here), I suppose the only benchmark would be how much more time advancing it at a earlier stage would have brought to activities you enjoy now as opposed to going for the more direct enjoyment you received by focusing on other goals than your career at the time. If your career at this time leaves enough time to enjoy your family and hobbies, it would seem you've made good choices.
This might be me misremembering something I read, but I believe the point was that the competitive nature of some games (you didn't specify if this was during all gaming) might temporarily increase aggression while also acting as an outlet for it.
Possibly tangentially related, but it may also have to do with the whole "flow" thing. If I don't misremember the book with the same name, one aspect of flow was potentially a somewhat negative reaction to it getting interrupted. Possibly also a reason why people get road rage, as I believe driving was quite a common way of getting into the zone. But this is a more speculative statement on my part, can't remember reading any hard facts on the matter merely statements by others.
I think this is the key in life, not letting any one aspect consume you. There have been times in my life where video games have taken a significant amount of my time, but I don't regret those moments because they too were a part of the experience we call life and I did enjoy those times as they went along.
You bring up good points regarding enjoyment and achievement. Sometimes we make the choices we do because we think they'll bring us enjoyment. I think what I'm getting at is that satisfaction with one's life is not always achieved by doing those things that bring you the most enjoyment.
The funny thing about turning your passion into your career is that you may end up hating your job. If your career doesn't go where you want it to, and you can look back at specific choices you made to play video games instead of working, what at the time seemed like the right choice may not seem like the right choice after all. OTOH, it's possible that working instead of playing video games would have lead to burn-out.
This makes a lot of sense. I'm definitely not in a pleasant mood when my flow is interrupted, but I try very hard not to expose the person interrupting me to this.
True, this is something that's very hard to analyse in the moment & sometimes you have to go against your immediate feeling. As an example, my brother was recently renovating and occasionally asked for help. As I'm not one for manual labor, my first instinct is to deny the help, but I always accepted after a short internal conflict and didn't regret it once. Sure, the task at hand may not have been something I enjoy, but the satisfaction of being able to help someone close to me as well as seeing the progress made certainly helped make it maybe not a enjoyable memory but still a good one.
Yeah, this is a difficult problem made more difficult because one can't predict the outcome. Makes me feel like the right approach to seeking a career is to find something you like, but maybe not love. Though turning a passion into a career does come more naturally. Still, if one of the top five regrets of the dying is working too hard, I find it hard to justify a too great investment in one's career. Especially how one's relationship to the passion would seem to inevitably change due to the nature of it also being a means of income. Unless one is lucky enough to earn sufficient income to live comfortably to one's own standards by only making it work when one feels like it.
Yeah, it feels like a accurate hypothesis. But it's certainly something to be aware of & gives one the opportunity to recognise it and as you said, not channel that frustration on others.