Here, attention shifts to those who are in a primary relationship with the dead – mothers, fathers, sons, daughters, husbands, wives, brothers and sisters – whose responsibility it is to dispose of their dead and to manage the ending of mortal attachments and the loss and grief that this brings

It is hard to explain the feelings I had as they just casually threw the remains of my wife's mom, someone I also came to know, into the back of a van.