• heilschwein
    +3
    @AdelleChattre -

    @AdelleChattre - Chickenosis has some good feedback for you. I've seen a few different comment threads where you seem pretty combative and use inflammatory language (regardless of if your point is well made or not). This is a small community and you comment a lot. Your comments do a lot to shape the tone of the site and your tone is often negative without constructively supporting your point.

    Thank you for providing meaningful responses and viewpoints that encourage discussion. Don't let your tone negate the value of your thoughtfulness.

  • AdelleChattre (edited 7 years ago)
    +2
    @heilschwein -

    Yet now you've taken a tone with someone. Likely you don't regret it. Wasn't about you, was it? You did it out of concern. Odds are you still think it needed saying. Luckily my ears aren't too tender to've heard it. Daresay nor were those of any others who've taken a tone and then gotten one as well.

  • heilschwein
    +3
    @AdelleChattre -

    Not sure what tone you're talking about.

    I'm not trying to say you aren't allowed to take a certain tone. I just think your sometimes unnecessarily negative tone doesn't help further your cause. For example, your response to me feels lectury, overly defensive and superior (whether that is an accurate interpretation of your intentions or not) and makes me feel more inclined to recoil, paint you in broad, negative strokes, ignore your potentially meaningful response, and become overly defensive myself. Although I appreciate the content of what you say and probably mostly agree with it, I have less desire to listen to it or further dialogue with you because of your less constructive tone.

    If the way I speak makes it difficult for you to hear or appreciate the point I am trying to make, please let me know. I don't want to waste my words by not picking them well.

  • AdelleChattre
    +4
    @heilschwein -

    As with so many things, you get out what you put in. Consider your own tone here with me for a moment, if you will. If you'd like to see Snapzu go in a certain direction, get started.

    • heilschwein
      +3
      @AdelleChattre -

      I feel like I was pretty straightforward/even/respectful with my approach here. Perhaps it wasn't a helpful criticism worth offering to begin with. I was hoping to provide some constructive feedback but it seems it was likely inappropriate or misdelivered for this particular audience. You certainly aren't breaking any site policies or anything so carry on however you want.

      Let me know if you have any specific thoughts or feelings on issues with my approach, thought process, or language so I can have more meaningful discussions moving forward.