I never actually met someone who waits until the 6th date to have sex. Every single person I have ever met just kind of goes with the date as it happens, and feels things out in that regard. If you were on a fantastic date with an incredibly attractive, awesome person who you have known for a while, and things were very clearly going in that direction, would you actually halt it and consider that a deal breaker for a relationship with them?
Sex is a beautiful thing. Some are very comfortable with it and some like to guard it as something sacred to be saved. Enjoying sex and and being willing to share that at a time they're comfortable with is not a character flaw. I worry that calling them sluts brings shame to enjoying something that is supposed to be enjoyed.
1. Not open to new experiences, travel, foods and new friendships
2. No sense of humour
3. Posseses the crazy jealous, nosy, and borderline psychopathic gene
I don't mind belonging to a faith but those that are overly religious really obliterate any desire to be with them. Also people who will believe anything they're told/see on the internet would never make a good spouse.
When they come off too nice. Yeah, I love good first impressions, especially when you're first starting out / not exclusive. But don't be too nice to me. It comes off as fake and even a little creepy at times.
Also, when they constantly text you. I don't need to text you every 10 minutes. Maybe if I'm bored, but generally I'm not and I'm busy doing something. If you keep blowing up my phone because I'm not responding right away, then guaranteed I'm going to break it off.
Tattoos. I think Tattoos's look nice and all but i'm really not into dating someone with them.
Basically, all conversation on the first three dates will circle around their tats and their plans for more (it's never just the current batch, it's 'saving money up for the next one').
It's like arm pets that you constantly talk about.
I always find just how different other people's tastes are sometimes. I don't really like tattoos, but I was talking to someone that was saying he wished his girlfriend would get them. Not just a few either, he said he wanted her to have full sleeves and tats all over. Similarly, I had a friend that always dated the ugliest looking girls to me.
Jealousy. I am not a possession and I will never treat you like one. If you get upset because you think I'm looking at someone else or because I talked to someone else then you will create a self-fulfilling prophecy as I go find someone else who will treat me more like a person than a pet.
Jealousy tells me you don't trust me, and that you think you have the right to censor me. I'm willing to discuss boundaries and work out a compromise but treating me with jealousy doesn't flatter my ego. It just makes me walk away.
Sending me dick pics in the middle of the day. Come on, fellas. Your penis is awesome, but I'd rather not see it while I'm in a meeting or grocery shopping or something.
if you invite me, you're paying, if i invite you i'm paying. if we talk about splitting the bill before hand that's also cool. But if you invite me to dinner then we eat then you're like "so you're paying right cause equality!" then you're going to be the victim of an equally broken nose.
Well, I tolerated him smoking weed but I had requested he stopped doing speed and E while I was around. I thought that was reasonable since we had a good amount of separate lives and apart time all i felt i was asking for was for him to give me his full attention when i was around. but it was ignored and he chose drugs over me and lied about it (which was arguably the worst part).
So it became instantly an argument i wasn't willing to even need to have. I don't give a shit what people want to put in their bodies, I just think you shouldn't blow off your partner to do so.
Table manners. They don't have to be perfect, just not like a pig. I don't see a problem with sex on the first date, especially if initiated by me. Blokes who think girls are sluts are a complete hypocritical no-no. I disapprove of foul language in front of dogs, old ladies and small children. Socks with sandals.
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Jealousy, violence, rudeness to others, sex on the 1st-5th dates(slut), attempts to go condomless(no ta)
I never actually met someone who waits until the 6th date to have sex. Every single person I have ever met just kind of goes with the date as it happens, and feels things out in that regard. If you were on a fantastic date with an incredibly attractive, awesome person who you have known for a while, and things were very clearly going in that direction, would you actually halt it and consider that a deal breaker for a relationship with them?
Not a judgement, just a question.
I would yes
Sounds like a cunt move.
Depends if he rejects her for being a slut before or after the sex ;)
Always after
Sex is a beautiful thing. Some are very comfortable with it and some like to guard it as something sacred to be saved. Enjoying sex and and being willing to share that at a time they're comfortable with is not a character flaw. I worry that calling them sluts brings shame to enjoying something that is supposed to be enjoyed.
1. Not open to new experiences, travel, foods and new friendships
2. No sense of humour
3. Posseses the crazy jealous, nosy, and borderline psychopathic gene
I don't mind belonging to a faith but those that are overly religious really obliterate any desire to be with them. Also people who will believe anything they're told/see on the internet would never make a good spouse.
When they come off too nice. Yeah, I love good first impressions, especially when you're first starting out / not exclusive. But don't be too nice to me. It comes off as fake and even a little creepy at times.
Also, when they constantly text you. I don't need to text you every 10 minutes. Maybe if I'm bored, but generally I'm not and I'm busy doing something. If you keep blowing up my phone because I'm not responding right away, then guaranteed I'm going to break it off.
Shut up.
I'm pretty sure this was not meant as a pickup thread.
Things happen when you expect them the least. ;)
Shut up... ;)
:)
Tattoos. I think Tattoos's look nice and all but i'm really not into dating someone with them. Basically, all conversation on the first three dates will circle around their tats and their plans for more (it's never just the current batch, it's 'saving money up for the next one').
It's like arm pets that you constantly talk about.
I always find just how different other people's tastes are sometimes. I don't really like tattoos, but I was talking to someone that was saying he wished his girlfriend would get them. Not just a few either, he said he wanted her to have full sleeves and tats all over. Similarly, I had a friend that always dated the ugliest looking girls to me.
Jealousy. I am not a possession and I will never treat you like one. If you get upset because you think I'm looking at someone else or because I talked to someone else then you will create a self-fulfilling prophecy as I go find someone else who will treat me more like a person than a pet.
There's a pretty huge difference between jealousy and possessiveness/paranoia.
Jealousy tells me you don't trust me, and that you think you have the right to censor me. I'm willing to discuss boundaries and work out a compromise but treating me with jealousy doesn't flatter my ego. It just makes me walk away.
Jealousy is a feeling, not an action. It's like saying you won't date someone who feels anger just because some people don't handle it well.
Sending me dick pics in the middle of the day. Come on, fellas. Your penis is awesome, but I'd rather not see it while I'm in a meeting or grocery shopping or something.
haha. I never understood wtf that was all about. Mabbie I'm just old or something but the idea of sending someone a cock pic is utterly inane.
It's definitely weird at all ages. I couldn't fathon why you'd do it either.
ordering for me.
or expecting me to pay cause i'm a feminist and apparently me paying = equality?
One upping, treating wait staff badly (or any service staff), drugs.
All those things means you're going back to visit Mrs Palm and her 5 sisters
No one should be expected to pay for someone else in an equal world.
if you invite me, you're paying, if i invite you i'm paying. if we talk about splitting the bill before hand that's also cool. But if you invite me to dinner then we eat then you're like "so you're paying right cause equality!" then you're going to be the victim of an equally broken nose.
Easy there Chris Brown.
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In addition to most of the others on here, I would say bad breath is very high up there for me.
Yeah I try not to be shallow, but someone having bad breath can be a real turn off, or a really weird/bad smell.
Personality disorder. It's just too exhausting.
1. basicness
Smoking, too strong of a religion. Then again, I never tried to score a date.
Speaking generally? Tattoos.
Table manners. They don't have to be perfect, just not like a pig. I don't see a problem with sex on the first date, especially if initiated by me. Blokes who think girls are sluts are a complete hypocritical no-no. I disapprove of foul language in front of dogs, old ladies and small children. Socks with sandals.